Day and night makeup… We all have different looks to suit both. But, I wanted to quickly share mine with you. I don’t even think there’s much difference for me…

Day

Primer

This is vital. I use Avant Pro Collagen. My makeup applies really smoothly and lasts ages too. I know it’s weird, but I’ve noticed it also transfers less during the day since using this.

Foundation

The Ordinary full-coverage foundation is my go-to during the day. If I have spots, which is currently (and at least once a month, every month due to PMS), I apply this on top and nothing else. These days, I can’t be bothered to contour and highlight for daywear. In fact, I don’t even foundation most of the time – only when I need to.

TIP: don’t use brushes. I know most suggest to, but it’s unhygienic after a while. You need to regularly clean it. I ain’t got time. Instead, tap it onto your skin (use your hands after washing). If you’ve applied a primer prior, it should go on smoothly and stay in place.

Bronzer:

As I said, I’ve got into a habit of no longer applying bronzer and highlighter. But, the one that I would use is Rockateur by Benefit. I did used to wear Hoola, but this is highlighter, blusher and bronzer in one for me.

Night

Lipstick:

Here’s where nightwear (make-up) comes in… If you only apply the above, it pretty much covers day makeup, but a bold lip colour on top quickly transforms it into nightwear makeup. My all time favourites are liquid lipsticks from Kylie Cosmetics. However, for a bolder and more vibrant colour, I choose Red Carpet Red by Charlotte Tilbury.

Eyes:

So, you’ve finished work – where you’ve had day-wear makeup on but are heading out after… Take your eyeshadow pallet along. This is another way around transforming your daywear makeup (above) to nightwear, make your eyelids POP. I’d go for a smoky eye or a subtle shimmery gold. Becca’s is good for that.

Mascara & False Lashes

Mascara wise, it will never not be MaxFactor’s Masterpiece Max. It’s the one I always end up going back to. And, you know what they say about that…

I have never (and will never wear fake lashes or even curl my lashes). I’ve found an app that adds them to an already-taken selfie, YouCam Makeup. But, I don’t wear them – at all. (I’ve also deleted the app because embracing the way I look, and not editing my selfies is better for my mental health).

It’s not every day we go out after work… Sometimes, we want to go out on the weekend and apply our makeup just before we head out… In this case, it’s better to apply stuff that lasts through the night and offers better coverage… Well, here goes!

Primer:

Same as daytime. This shouldn’t change. ‘If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it’ is my mantra RE primer. That’s also due to the fact that my skin is quite acne prone, so if this seems to agree with my skin, result!

Foundation:

I turn to Laura Mercier at night. LAURA! This is my favourite foundation! It’s oil-free and like liquid gold.

Bronzer/Blush/Highlighter:

Anastasia Beverly Hills Contour Pallet. This sculpts my face differently. I get the chiseled jaw look every time. I use the cream version for better definition, but powder works just as well.

Setting Powder:

I set both day and night makeups with the same thing… Wunder2 Selfie Powder. This is great for blotting it all in place.

Setting Spray:

I finish all looks (day & night) with MAC Prep & Prime Rose Water. It gives my skin that glow and locks the makeup mastery in place.

To conclude, you can easily turn day makeup into night makeup with quick application of eyeshadow and lipstick (if you go bare lipped and eyed throughout the day). Better still, do what I do and just don’t wear makeup all day until it’s time? Then you can use the better coverage stuff and you can skip the whole re-apply and/or top-up process.

Friends of mine are flight attendants. I cannot imagine how much anxiety they must feel every day. Travelling is great. It’s a lovely perk to any job, but the lack of safety in this world is enough to make you worry about doing even the most day-to-day things like leaving the house.

Stay safe. Always, always let your nearest and dearest loved ones know how much they mean to you. Society has become one where the last time we talk to someone could legit come at any moment. That’s tragic.

We will never forget 9/11. But, we will do our best to fix the long-suffering damage caused, ensuring more security is in place to ensure tragedies like this never happen again.

Today, we think of the relatives who lost an asset to their family tree, friends who lost a major part of their circle and companies who lost a valued member of their team. Those who lost their lives are more than just people. They’re a community, and a whole generation.

Pray for peace, love and unity – not for chaos, hate and animosity. We are better than this, both individually and as a collective.

Hello, again!

I wanted to put together a little post on tips that should (hopefully) motivate and inspire my readers (which, if you’re still here, thanks! You’re the reason I do it).

This time, I’m talking about the art of loving ourselves.

In the age of social-media (and general media), it is very hard to love ourselves. The media was designed to show us what the ‘perfect person’ should look and behave like… Well, the truth is… The way every person looks and acts is ‘perfect’.

What is ‘perfection’?

Perfection is real. Real people are perfect.

We are all perfect and are at our most perfect when we come together in a perfectly imperfect unity.

‘Perfect’ is what we see in the mirror. ‘Perfect’ is our trials, tribulations, scars (or war-paint). ‘Perfect’ is our ability to tame our erratic moods with our tender and peaceful nature, forming a type of yin-yang. That is ‘perfect’. That is human.

We all, as the human race, have flaws. But, the key is to focus and accentuate our greatness – thankfully, we all have that too. Having said that, we are our worst critics.

On the one hand, we know we need to cut ourselves some slack. On the other, we never do. That’s because we’re hardwired to not love ourselves, because of the media’s take on what garners attention.

If we loved ourselves, we’d be a lot kinder to ourselves, fact.

The journey to loving ourselves

I decided to embark on the journey of loving myself after reading Cheryl Cole’s autobiography.

Umm… Only God can judge ‘mii?

In her book, she mentions that she learned to love herself (and finally accept herself) at the age of 30.

Look, I’m pretty sure she didn’t plan on being 30 when she learned to love herself. (In fact, I’m pretty sure she said she wished she got there sooner.) But, I’m also certain she’s glad she got there eventually – because, I’d imagine that to be the most liberating feeling in the world.

Anyway, I remember reading that part of her book and thinking: “I don’t want to be 30 when I learn. I’ve got to start from now…” Not that there’s anything wrong with learning to love yourself at 30 (or any age for that matter).

Life is not a race. We always arrive on time. I believe that all it comes down to is hearing someone talking about it. The age that you discover it, albeit through word-of-mouth, is the age you might start feeling ready to take the first step.

Sure enough, I made it my long-term goal and wrote it down on a piece of paper… I hid it in a drawer, and still to this day get it out to analyse my progress.

I was 23 when I read her book. It has been five years, almost. I’m here to tell you that in that time, I’m almost 70% there (ups & downs included).

As I said, I’ve had my fair share of ups and downs along the way. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t still have them now. Yes, there have been setbacks which delayed my growth, but, I’m not giving up.

What happens once we learn to love ourselves?

Great question.

Once we learn to love ourselves, we open ourselves up to endless possibilities and opportunities…

We’ll find it considerably easier to break cycles/habits that we struggled with previously.

We’ll start cutting ourselves some slack, going easier on ourselves…

We’ll free ourselves from burdens and past grudges. We start focusing on our pros/greatness rather than our cons/flaws.

We’ll start appreciating life and the connections we have, making the most of them.

We’ll start living in the moment, feeling confident enough to push ourselves out of our comfort zone.

We’ll start to understand our worth, and what we deserve – going after the life that’s destined for us.

How does one learn to love themselves?

It’s never too late to start… It begins with simple but positive affirmations (replacing each negative thought about ourselves with three positive ones). Eventually, our minds will train themselves to think positive.

Don’t be surprised if you start seeing the G.O.A.T and HRH (His/Her Royal Hotness) staring back at you in the mirror once you start. Because, that, is exactly who/what you are.

How do we “let go” of something which meant the world to us? Something which was part of the best and most influential/important chapters of our lives? Look, I’ve been trying for ages and still not mastered it. But, I truly believe it happens with time.

If I’m honest, the first step was accepting that whatever it is, is never going to happen. It was a work in progress for years even though there was no transformations or breakthroughs. So, if it didn’t happen at a time when it was at (what I thought was) its best, it certainly isn’t going to happen after the worst.

Time

Time is a healer. I don’t know how long it takes and I don’t want to pluck a number out of the sky, but it does. You will heal, eventually. The key here is to not rush the healing. If you rush your soul and heart’s healing, your ‘20% healed’ will feel like the full 100 (but will later catch up with you – making you realise the hard way that there’s still 80% to go)! That is not great, at all.

Replacement

Replacing the thing you wanted the most so soon (if at all) is the first step to disaster. Yeah, you’ve accepted it won’t happen, but are struggling to let go… You won’t be able to let go if you’re comparing everything around with the one thing you’re struggling to let go of, or searching for something to replace it and fill the void. Rebound doesn’t work. Ask the tried and tested. It only makes you think of the thing you’re trying to replace more, prolonging the healing process.

Prayer

I truly believe that prayer got me through it. I’m going to be honest, my faith is something that I’ve always had – but going through personal turmoil and my first ever heartbreak really got me even closer to God. “God heals the broken-hearted and bandages their wounds.”

For once, I found myself not praying for specifics and praying for his grace and plan. I begged him to help me let go of something that may not have even been part of his plan, because the pain I felt in the aftermath was unbearable. They say ‘God is not one of confusion’, therefore, I can only assume that the confusion experienced in that chapter of my life must’ve meant it wasn’t for me, regardless of how much I wanted to believe, and hoped/prayed otherwise.

Some might not believe in God. If you don’t, maybe you should try reading or researching this? Turning to God is (for those who tried it) life-changing. Especially when nothing seems to go right. Once God is found and depended on, everything will start to look up with patience and an unfailing, unconditional, unwavering confidence/belief and love.

Don’t let the situation scar you for life

No, the plan didn’t go the way we wanted. That’s not the end of the world, even if you considered it during the peak of the fuckery.

Take all the time you need. Vent as much as you need.

However, don’t let it turn you off trying again – it might work the next time. All I’ll say is really mature and learn from the mistakes made from this time, so you’ll be stronger and unbreakable the next. The best thing about life is that we cannot break in the same way twice.

As much as you feel like you’ll never be that happy (at the peak of the situation’s greatness/peacefulness) again, you will. You just need to find happiness within yourself. Never allow anyone to be responsible for your happiness. That’s cruel, because if they can’t give you that – due to the fact that they’re not happy in themselves either – it’ll do more damage than good.

Don’t victimise yourself or the situation

There are no victims in life. The reality is, we accepted the circumstances in the first place – knowing the pros/cons. So, we have no one to blame but ourselves (except, we shouldn’t blame ourselves either).

There was some safety and happiness connected to the plan, and that was what made the rest of the picture worth focusing on for the period of time needed. Once it starts to crumble, we begin to lose sight of what made us want to go through with it in the first place. Don’t, just: take the time you need. Once you’re healed, or ready, go back out there and face the world.

Don’t guilt-trip yourself. We make mistakes. We live, we learn. Yeah, we made the same mistakes over and over again, so what? You’re entitled to feel like “maybe it will be different this time?” when you want something so much… It’s human nature. We just don’t want to accept the reality that it won’t. That’s not to do with people as much as it’s to do with the circumstance. If something isn’t for us, no amount of praying or trying will make it be.

I know for a fact that if I had been given what I wanted and the ending was still going to be as bitter as it’s turned out, it would have fully been the end of my life. There would’ve been no going back. When a chapter teaches you so much about yourself, teaching you lessons about life and yours in particular (even in the craziest and most un-comprehendible of circumstances), you struggle to function in the same way (if at all) afterwards.

Go easy on yourself is the message! You’ll get through it. There is light at the end of the tunnel. You’ve just got to believe it and keep walking towards it.

There’s nothing Ordinary about what you’re about to read…

Welcome to my first ever post, on The Ordinary.

You only have to scroll down to find out that this definitely isn’t my first ever post, just my first ever ‘The Ordinary’ post.

Another thing, there’s nothing Ordinary about my posts… If anything, they’re out-of-the-Ordinary. One might even go as far as to say: ‘Extraordinari-ly weird!?!! Are you on METHODOLOGY!?!!’. Nope. I think it’s CRYSTAL clear that I have no experience in methodology.

Anyway, this review is not about my blog/posts, but about… Yep, you guessed it… Lush!

Hahaha! Only joking… The (extra)Ordinary!

My Verdict on… The Ordinary:

It’s brilliant, honestly. Fantabulous! It’s healed my skin brilliantly from pre-menstraul breakouts. Not even sure that’s how you spell “menstraul”, I think I’ve spelt it so wrong that not even autocorrect can help me out. My spelling of that word is beyond help.

Am I going to search the right spelling on Google as soon as I finish writing and publishing this? DUH! (Turns out it’s spelled: “menstrual”).

Could’ve been better*, I could’ve spelled it as MENSA!

“WHY AM I LIKE THIS!?!!” Been up since 4am is the answer.

So, are you going to try The Ordinary or..? It’s GREAT!

What products do I use from The Ordinary?

Granactive Retinoid 5% in Squalane

Granactive Retinoid, probably because my grandma actively avoids this blog, most definitely because she doesn’t know it exists. Speaking of grans in general, they probably use this. It’s good for keeping the skin youthful.

Niacinamide 10% + Zinc 1%

This is good for them MF’n P.I.M.Ples! 🎵

If you want to… pop some zits, with 20 serums in your pocket…🎵, this is fucking awesome! 👍

Argireline Solution 10%

The Holy Grail for my ‘nasalobials’, which just sounds like a gross synonym of the words ‘smile lines’.

I am starting to love my smile lines because they’re a sign of someone who smiled or laughed a lot. I used to hate them, but I’m starting to accept them. They’re a part of me and a reminder of my happiest times.

There’s literally nothing wrong with smile/expression lines (unless they’re frown ones). Turn that smile the right side up. ❤️

DISCLAIMER: if you’re trying these for the first time, definitely patch test. They’re quite abrasive to some skin types. Also, just because something works for me, doesn’t mean it’ll work for you. If you’ve found something that works, stick to it. If you haven’t, try these. I love them because they’re very affordable too. I’m sure this would make me feel less guilty if they didn’t necessarily work for me. Luckily, they do. ** this goes for all products reviewed**

Finally, on a separate note, thanks for not blocking this site from your Safari/Google Chrome/FireFox/Internet Explorer settings, it means a lot. If it’s any constellation, I haven’t blocked yours either. ASTRONOMICAL BEHAVIOOOOO!

You’ll be pleased to know I’m now off to bed. Literally, right now.