Real Issues That Affect Us

This is a post about ‘misdiagnosises’ <- (not a word, but should be) and my issues with them.

Before I go any further, I completely understand that the NHS has sadly been stripped of funding in recent years and I back the notion of free healthcare one hundred percent. It is and always should be a human right. Fact.

However, ‪I feel like I also need to talk about the time a clinician / consultant MISdiagnosed me with an illness based on the continent where I originate from MORE than my symptoms and results of the MRI (which took 4 MONTHS to happen in the first place)…‬

‪Apparently, me being Lebanese and it [Lebanon] “being so close to Cyprus” means that I MUST have Bachetes [a Cypriot-based form of arthritis, apparently], which causes a whole host of symptoms that I didn’t, never and still don’t have but also swelling round a joint (which subsequently turned out to just be a sport injury).‬ Umm… If you know me well, you know what’s coming… PARDON!? 👂👋

I’ve had plenty of colds and flus in England, none of them started a full blown conversation with me in English. Illnesses are not location specific. End of. Don’t insult my intelligence…

‪My theory is: the reason they came to this conclusion was because the system had taken so long to have me seen, by which point the worst part of injury had healed, and they were left scratching their heads not knowing what could’ve been the cause…‬

They then proceeded to stick a syringe in my hip (after draining fluid from my knee) and its liquid content looked like chicken broth, no lie. They didn’t (as far as I recall)  even ask me to sign a declaration and I don’t to my knowledge remember them telling me what the liquid was either… Then again, I was heavily sadated with pain relief…

But, what I do remember is that they tried to prescribe me a medication that has a strong likelihood to cause liver damage ‪even though I refuted that I had arthritis, and stated time and time again there’s no family history… Again, PARDON!?!

So let’s do a quick recap… I am the owner and inhabitant of my own body – knowing full well I’ve not got the majority of the symptoms that come with this geographical-location apparently dependent form of arthritis (and have no family history of it) – was being told I have it, then was injected with what looks like liquidated chicken stock, and told to take a liver-damage inducing medication… I think you know what came next… A resounding NO followed by a “I’d like to discharge myself”.

‪Anyway, I went to seek advice elsewhere and was told I had a blocked lymphatic system which worsened my injury. This made more sense to me as I had a relative who suffered from a weak lymph system anyway.

Lesson? Seek a second opinion, always. Your health depends on it…‬

There are more than one possible ‘diagnosises’ for more than one symptom…

Of course, healthcare professionals alike are amazing, but sadly, we’re sometimes met with the wrong clinicians who just look at us as a statistic, even if there’s more than one could-be explanation.

Needless to say the result of this farce of a mis-diagnosis was that I discharged myself and have been injury free for over 9 months, touch wood.

DISCLAIMER: both NHS or private clinicians can be prone to misdiagnosing. It’s a mix of bad luck and timing, nothing more. Like I said, seek a second opinion if it doesn’t feel right and you’ll be fine.

Keaton Jones is a kid. He couldn’t help the alleged “racist” family he was born into. Racism is wrong, of course, but it’s not his fault! The internet is now quick to add to it because his mum might or might not have said something racist? Have a heart! In case you’ve forgotten, it’s about Keaton… It was Keaton who went viral for crying for help. Yes, his mum featured in the video, but it’s him that’s suffering. It’s him that we felt compassion and empathy towards.

As someone who has witnessed bullying first hand, I would never wish it on anyone. If the rumours are true, and his mother did say or act in an unforgiving way, I’m sure Keaton himself was/is mortified. I’m sure he knows how it feels to be shunned, treated disrespectfully, name-called etc…

Don’t blame a kid for his parent’s actions. A lot of us are born with family members – distant or immediate – that we clash with or that we don’t believe act in a morally correct way… That does not mean for a second that we, ourselves, are that way inclined. Especially a kid that age… He’s still young. He’s got a lot to learn. We need to strengthen him, build him up and make sure he doesn’t end up doing something tragic like trying to end his life, NOT lambasting him based on assumptions/rumours surrounding his family, who – again – if proven correct, should’ve known better.

Be there for a kid who’s suffering and don’t tear shreds out of them just because their family may or may not have said or done something racist… Until there’s clear evidence that he (Keaton) was racist, I won’t think any less of him.

HI!

It’s one of my favourite days of the year, today… Thanksgiving!

To all my American friends, I wish you the bestest of Thanksigivings! I hope you’re full of joy, prosperity, luck, good health, delicious food, and festive cheer (on all days, but today a little more).

It’s easy to get wrapped up in the materialistic of lives, not remembering what days like today are all about…

Today is the day for giving thanks, and just being happy with the priceless things we have … the people we’re accompanied by on this mad journey called ‘life’; along with the underrated blessings, big or small… Being thankful is free. We can all do it. It’s the act of being grateful and understanding that we are blessed beyond measure, every day.

Hold the people in your lives close, be extra nice to them and show them you care, because honestly – life is too short.

The finer things in life are the only things we’re left with, so make sure your finer things are the finest of things.

Love,

Miamii

Xoxox

Hey guys,

I just wanted to come online to share something in a hope that it’ll resonate with at least one of you… A few years ago, I was working for a local newspaper, covering Entertainment news. Now, for those of you who don’t know, I’m a journalist. I majored in journalism and still do it as a freelance now…

Anyway, so I was working there, on an internship, and met a teenager who was on work experience. He was just starting out and was telling me about his passion for journalism – but also how his parents don’t believe it’s the right career for him… They told him he’d be better off being a doctor (as it’s a culture thing).

Now, of course – if he, himself, wants to be a doctor, he should. But, there’s no point him playing out his family’s goals because ultimately, as cruel and harsh as it sounds, it’s his life…

Imagine if this teenager grows up being a doctor just because it’s what his family thought was best for him… Of course, saving lives is a massive thing, and a very commendable thing, but – it’s not really what he wants to be doing.

Yes, our parents and families believe in us and want what’s best for us. I’m sure his family were telling him to be a doctor because it’s a more financially stable job and one with less competitiveness (in terms of work). However, if you’re someone who’s talented, works hard, and puts the effort in, you will succeed regardless.

I told him a piece of advice which might have sounded bad to begin with, but it honestly was meant in good gest… I told him not to live his life for his family, but to live it for himself.

At the end of the day, he’s the only one going to be looking back on his life… When the day of judgement happens, or when we have that flash before our eyes… He’s going to be seeing his family’s goals, and not his own. He’ll be forever wondering what-if. He’ll grow old never knowing where his talent for writing could’ve taken him. His family, unbeknownst to them (how much he wants to be a journalist) I’m sure, would not want that.

Ultimately, our families want us to be happy and successful. They’re realists. They try to keep us grounded. It’s not that they don’t believe in us, it’s just – they want to shield us from disappointment or pain. But, at the same time, they really sometimes don’t understand how much we want something, because the need to protect us blinds them…

I will never forget his reaction to what I told him. He said: “wow! No one has ever said this to me before… I never thought like this. I’m going to talk to them, and try to help them understand.” I didn’t think he’d act on it, if I’m honest… A lot of the time people are too scared to confront people, and aren’t able to speak up for fear they’d be letting them down.

Well, I got an email from him recently. He is studying journalism at University (on his final year) and has got a placement at a newspaper.

This is proof that if you put your mind to something, no matter how huge, your determination and your willingness to achieve it along with your dedication to the craft will no doubt get you there.

If you never take anything from me, that’s fine. Just, live your life for you but respectfully understand that parents are just trying to do their jobs. Luckily, I was blessed with parents who would never force (even though that’s a very strong word) me into anything, I was always taught to go after what I want and that’s the attitude I’ll instil in my young. It’s very important.

Always support someone’s aspirations and help them reach it. Never tell them they can’t, even if you mean well and are just doing it to protect them. At the end of the day, they’ll be paying their own bills one day, and they’d prefer to pay them off with a salary they earned by doing something they love and not one they were persuaded to do.

Never, ever give up. Always have aspirations, always have goals. Go above and beyond. Be proud of all that you’ve achieved, and never stop.

Thanks,

Miamii

Xo

 

Hi guys,

What better way to kick off my 26th year than to discuss the 25 lessons I’ve learned since last year, am I right?

I’ve made it to 26 and I’ve never been prouder. I feel like now my life is really starting to take off and all the other years were preparation for the next ones acoming… The next ones acoming will be filled with stability. I’ll make sure of that. I feel like my life has been missing that. All my life has ever needed is stability.

Below, you’ll find 25 things I learned last year or already knew but have decided to stick with this year.

1) if you don’t love yourself, you won’t allow for anyone else to love you

I might take the mick out of myself, but I’m very confident in my skin, secure in myself and am very aware of who I am as a person.

2) don’t be resentful

If things don’t go the way you intially planned, or things don’t work out as you’d hoped – don’t worry. Don’t resent people or circumstances in your life. Everything happens for a reason.

3) what’s meant for you is yours

No one has ever missed an opportunity that was written in their book of life. The only opportunities missed are ones that weren’t meant for us in the first place.

4) be patient no matter what

Patience is everything. Take That wrote a song about it. Have a little patience. It’ll all work out in the end, don’t rush anything. God knows we’ve all tried to rush stuff to no avail.

5) actions speak louder than words

Be proactive not just literate. You’ve got to and talk. That’s the secret to a happy anything.

6) life is about finding yourself

Do things that challenge and grow you as a person, if you’re not spending your time conquering fears, pushing yourself out of comfort zones and being fearless, you’re not living.

7) be yourself

Stand up for what you believe in and be yourself throughout. Don’t spend your time trying to change for other people to like you. The right people will see past it all and love you.

8) be true to yourself and others

Don’t lie to yourself or others. Be honest about what and who you are no matter how hard it is. We all make mistakes, those who admit to those and have no problem talking about them are the winners.

9) take time to meditate

Meditation helps with anxiety and enables you to enter another world of pure tranquility. I’ve been doing this as much as I can, it’s so helpful. It helps to see things clearer.

10) trust your instincts

Whatever your instincts are telling you, you’re right to feel it.

11) pray

If you believe in God, pray to him. If you don’t, pray to yourself. Tell yourself things, and put steps in place that helps you put them into action i.e. dreams.

12) dare to dream

No dream is too big if you can visualise yourself doing it and really believe in it.

13) work hard

Put all your efforts into working hard and earning a name for yourself in the industry that you specialise in, or earn the grades you’re striving to get at school/college/uni.

14) enjoy life

Life is too short. Enjoy it.

15) focus on the positive

The key to a happy life is to focus on the positives. There’s good and bad in all situations, accept the bad but dwell on the good.

17) be selfish when you need to be

Don’t live life for anyone else. Your life is yours alone. The people you’re “living for” (in the ways they want you to be) aren’t going to be there always.

18) join a social club or start classes in something you enjoy (like a hobby)

You’ll meet people and grow skills you never knew you had.

19) smell the flowers and/or coffee

Take time out of your day to smell something that relaxes your mind, body and soul. It really helps in times of tension.

20) love life

Love the life you live and be grateful and thankful for everythjng.

21) smile even when you don’t want to

Trick yourself into believing you’re happy on your worst days, it works.

22) watch funny clips

Spend your time laughing. Laughter is the best medicine.

23) be the best version of someone you’d like to meet

Like attracts like, so if you’re the version of someone you’d love to meet, you’ll meet a likeminded individual.

24) love wholeheartedly

Love entirely. Spread love like it’s glitter.

25) remember that every day is a second chance to change something about yourself or your life

If you’re not happy with something about yourself, change it. Don’t wait for tomorrow though, start today. Take tomorrow as a chance to stick with your new good habit and do it for 30 days until it becomes a part of you.

Thanks for reading (or not),

Miamii