Real Issues That Affect Us

I LOOK LIKE I NEED A STAMP OVER MY OWN FACE. AT LEAST LET ME START AS I MEAN TO GO ON! LET ME CREATE MY OWN STAMP BEFORE I MAKE ONE FOR YOU.

I DO NOT SELL ON WOWCHER. IF IN DOUBT, FIGURE IT OUT OR EAT A FIG WHILE YOU’RE OUT. JUST, DON’T FILL OUT THE CONTACT FORM ASKING ABOUT YOUR ORDERS.

I A) WON’T ANSWER. B) YOU’LL BE WASTING A MOMENT OF YOUR LIFE. YOU COULD BE MAKING CHILDREN ON MY BEHALF! ENJOY!

Below, I will be sharing my ways of coping with depression, anxiety and the like…

This actually isn’t the first time I’ve discussed anxiety on here, but today’s a day that warrants a repost or a reshare.

1) remember the things that you live for, the people you live for… Yes, I know this one’s somewhat difficult to do in the moment, but you’d be surprised how for every negative thought, a replacement of a positive one goes a long way…

According to science, if you remind yourself of three things that you’re most thankful for each day for 21 days, this rewires your brain to fix our chain of thought to become more positive.

2) pace yourself. Set short-term goals that you can achieve each day. If you struggle to leave the house when you’re at your lowest, motivate and encourage yourself to step outside, even just standing in your front yard. Each day, go a few steps further and before you know it, you’ll be back to being able to go out.

The other way is to push yourself completely out of your comfort  zone. Rather than pacing yourself, just bite the bullet. Go out, but take someone you trust with you and take a tranquilliser medication with you too, to calm you down. honestly, although I didn’t realise this at the time, this one helped the most.

3) CBT, counselling and or talking about it to people who you trust

This one is important. Look, plenty of mental illnesses can be cured just by talking about what’s bothering you. Yes, medications help to cope, but all they do is get rid of it for the duration of time you’re taking the dose. Essentially, it’s like putting a plaster on the problem and not treating it from the root.

No matter how difficult it is, if you can’t talk about it, you’re not going to fully heal. Of course, it’s not a bad thing if you can’t discuss it right away, you need to be ready. That’s fine too. It’s just, it’s impossible to get rid of the problem completely if you’re bottling it up. I always tell my friends this all the time. Whatever it is, it’s better out than in – not just flatulence and/or burps.

4) only do things that bring you joy

I watch TV, blog like crazy, and spend time with my mum, BFFS and brother a lot. Thinking of Bae a bit a lot helps as well. These are the things that keep us grounded. Bae keeps ME grounded, hopefully not like a teenager would be, but still.

5) cut the negatives from your life

Negative things are a form of toxins. You need to rid them from your life in order to heal. Remove them and you’ll start to live better.

6) Mindfulness/meditation

Guided meditation is incredible. It saved me. Honestly, they’re everything. If you don’t like meditating, listen to podcasts. They’re legit perfection.

Here’s something I don’t always talk about, but I should today…

I went through this. Two years ago. Yeah, I could hide it, and try to pretend it didn’t happen, or I could say that I went through it and came out of the other side.

I suppose I’m now ready to talk about it… I went through it because I had been bullied a lot as a child right through to the age of 17. I guess, I didn’t really know any different until after I moved schools. I suppose, going through it that long, you either get used to it and/or believe that everyone goes through it too…

Then, after leaving my old school and entering a new one, I met someone really abusive, mentally. That wasn’t fun either… I think this is one of the reasons why I don’t usually get into relationships – I mean, I wasn’t dating this guy but he was a complete creep. I literally had to get the police involved.

The reason I’m opening up about this now is because I feel like this can help someone… We all go through stuff. Terrible stuff. It’s the strong ones who are able to come out the other side that are the winners.

For me, although I was at the rockest of all bottoms, my saving grace was that I kept thinking of “tomorrow”. I never told myself I’d do “it” today. I always said “if I’m still feeling like this tomorrow, I’ll do it”. The same went on for as long as it did…

I was a junior youth worker aged 13. When the majority of my peers in Dagenham were getting pregnant, drinking and smoking – I was campaigning against it, running seminars against children doing these things. I’d set up classes, theatre trips to get people off the streets, and did all I could to be a shoulder to cry on for the bullied.

One thing you need to know about me, I was someone who was too strong to comprehend suicide. I understood the weaknesses of people who feel like they can’t go on, but I encouraged their strengths and made them feel like there’s stuff to live for. So, I surprised myself and everyone around me when I went through it…

My lesson is this, whoever you meet – try to be the best version of you that you can be. Honestly, there’s too much mean spiritedness everywhere and it needs to stop. Don’t agree with someone? Fine. Don’t hate on them for it. Don’t like the look of someone? Don’t hate on them for it. Don’t get along with someone? Fine. Don’t hate on them for it. There are ways to go about everything in life, and understanding that some people may be more sensitive about certain things than others is a start.

Be a nice and good human. In fact, don’t even worry about the nice and good bit, just be HUMAN. Love as much as you can and spread as much joy as you can.

I always thought it’s easier to be nice than it is to be horrible… I mean, you have to THINK about the negative things to say to people, right? Like, mean people must put their curses into audition and figure out strongest and most likely to bring someone down… What a waste of a life. Get a hobby.

That is all I wanted to say. To the nice people out there, keep being nice and if you go through stuff, it’s okay. I mean, it shouldn’t be but we’re human. Alas, we live in a society where the idiots are too brave and the legends lack it.

 

TTYL,

Miamii

xxxx

heatwave UKI’ve just hopped (like a kangaroo) on here to discuss the importance of You.

Right, there’s a lot I can say, but I’ll try to keep it under 10,000 words. Emphasis on the word ‘try’.

First and foremost, you should smile 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 4 weeks a month, 12 months a year – yadi yadah.

Second and Formosa, you’re legit a legend.

Third and utmost, remember that those who are first to pass negative judgement and/or give criticism are the same people who do nothing but sit around jobless, trying to get rises out of people like it pays their bills. While you are smashing it, doing you, being the best, they cry into their cereal and do nothing but troll from their dim, cardboard box room.

Fourth and mostmost, you’re a special little fella, aren’t you? You bring love, light, energy, and all the good stuff. You have saved people’s lives and brightened people’s days no end. You’ve made people who didn’t even want to smile or laugh cry with happy tears. Every time you hit a snag, remember this. There’s no One better.

As I said, there’s more, plenty more – but, I’ll stop. Remember this, an opinion is valid, always. Also, if you’re not being criticised, you’re not doing well enough. Haters only hate on people who’re better than them, and greater.

Thanks.

Godly blessings.

I once ate a whole wasabi. My friends recorded the whole thing.

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Hey guys,

I just wanted to chuck out a quick post on anxiety. Look, you might read my Twitter, Facebook and blog thinking that I’m a really happy person all of the time, wrong. I’m not always happy. Some days, like today, I get down and depressed/anxious – sometimes, like today, for no reason at all…

For me, I think it’s the weather. Today was really rainy, grey and dull. It looked super depressive and overcast.

Anxiety can strike at any moment and comes in a range of extremes. You can’t really plan it, but you can definitely notice the signs. If you notice the signs before it’s too late, you can prevent a meltdown.

What are the signs?

1) palpitations and uneasiness – when your heart starts racing or beating faster and you can feel in yourself that there’s a sort of emptiness or weird feeling coming over you.

The way to counteract those is through breathing techniques and trying to find out exactly what it is that’s causing the uneasiness. Could it be that you’ve changed something in your routine? Had something on your mind? Drank or taken something that you wouldn’t usually take? For instance, I was on a really bad concoction of weight loss supplements, and that spurred on severe anxiety a couple of years ago.

2) racing thoughts – do your thoughts run at a million miles per hour, forcing your head to overheat?

The way to stop this from happening is by doing a mindfulness podcast. There are great podcasts that calm the nerves. You can find them online.

3) bad/negative feelings – these are just feelings that you’re going to have to let pass. Some days are just not our days. Those feelings are an indication of that, if and only if it carries on for longer than normal, seek medical help. You can get referred to the psychologist or a counsellor. You can also get a prescription for antidepressants or tranquilizers. What I will say though is – don’t rely on them. It’s not healthy or safe to get used or addicted to them.

4) hyper sensitive to noise and emotions – this one is a tough one to get rid of because first you’ve got to establish what it isn’t that’s causing the hyper-sensitivity, then you’ve got to try to avoid the places or situations that bring it on. That’s hard. Especially when you don’t know why the heck you’re feeling anxious in the first place. I mean, if there’s nothing that you can put your finger on, nothing going on to make you feel that way; it could just be a hormone or emotional imbalance that’s passing through. Let it.

Seriously, the only way to beat anxiety is to know that there’s a better day awaiting you in tomorrow. The precise moment that anxiety strikes might not be for you, but tomorrow will be. Don’t dwell, don’t think about it too much. Distract yourself. Watch something hysterical, do something you enjoy, be with the people who make you laugh/happy. Life’s too short for anything else.

Alternatively, just speak to a friend or friends who you can trust and you know won’t judge. If you’re spiritual, a prayer or meditation helps too. The main thing is to not let it get you down, or worse than you are already feeling.

Remember, it’s a phase, it’ll pass and what you’re stressing about (if anything at all) will be a distant memory or not even one come next year. It’s really not that deep.

Enjoy every moment, and try to find the positive of the anxiety. The fact that you’re able to notice that you’re anxious is a huge plus. Trust me when I say there are people who don’t realise it until it’s too late. They don’t even the right tools to deal with it so the healing process takes longer. Don’t let that be you. Don’t be ashamed of anxiety either. Only the greats get anxious.

Anxiety occurs in people who are hyper sensitive and caring. Granted that being hyper-sensitive might not be perceived in society as a good thing, but at least you’ve got feelings. I have too much of them. Sensitivity is a massive turn on. Also, who doesn’t want to be caring?! It’s the nicest trait ever (equal with being funny).

The important thing is that whatever it is, don’t bottle it up. Speak to someone. Do something about it. Mental health is the most important of the health. It affects the rest of our organs, so make sure it’s been well treated, well fed (in thoughts). Keep it positive. A smile is of most importance. Keep smiling, even when you really don’t feel like it. Your mind will get tricked into releasing serotonin and endorphins that are responsible for making us happy.

Finally, the trick is to make yourself feel happy, even if you might not feel it during times of anxiety and depression. It’s easy for us to crack when we hit an all time low, but remember that you can only go up from there. Try to make a strength from your weaknesses without adding unnecessary pressure.

That’s all I wanted to say. If you ever need a chat, you know where I am. X