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I am flabbergasted to hear that there was a debate on ITV‘s ‘This Morning‘, where someone claimed that the ways in which victims of sexual assault dress play a part in whether a perpetrator is going to perpetrate!

I am appalled that we live in such a society where we still believe the way people carry themselves, dress, talk or behave makes them a target of such atrocious crimes.

In publicly declaring such a misogynistic claim, we are taking a percentage of fault from the perpetrator. So, where a perpetrator should be 100% liable for their crimes, they become something like 65% liable simply because someone decided that dressing “provocatively” adds to the “risk”. Sorry,  correct me if I’m wrong, but – should there even be a risk in the first place?!?!

There is a sad reminder every day in the newspapers we read and magazines we pick up that women, men, children, and teenagers (boys and girls) across the World have been victims of abuse (sexual, physical and the like).

Are you telling me that a baby is dressing “provocatively”? Are you telling me a man in a suit or woman in a blouse and smart trousers is dressed “provocatively” on their way to work? Are you telling me that students in school-uniform are dressed “provocatively”?

I know a man who was on the London Underground, standing on the escalators, he was sexually assaulted by another man in broad daylight! (this man was wearing a suit, carried a briefcase and was going to work at the time).

Dressing up (or down) has no part to play in crime. The sad reality is if someone is in the vicinity of a perpetrator or at-risk perpetrator, and they are in their sights, it’s going to happen. 💔

Rather than claiming “women’s attire” is to blame, we should be putting full blame on the criminals and educating everyone on the dangers of rape, as well as the different types of sexual assaults. If that’s not possible (which it totally is – even though we shouldn’t have to as it should be a known fact), then the Govs. should lock-up perpetrators and/or people at risk of perpetrating.

What’s more, pubs, bars, and clubs should refuse to serve at-risk perpetrators with alcoholic drinks on-tap for fear that this could lead to an offence… Because, if “dressing less provocatively” will lower the chances of rape, then so will not providing perpetrators with “excessive amounts of alcohol” and prohibiting them from “attending events deemed as risk-inducing”.

Bottom line is: when one goes to the beach, we are dressed in bikinis, swimsuits or trunks which, in essence, are outer versions of underwear. Does that mean we are inviting others to touch us? What do misogynists dress like when they’re at the beach, in a North Face jacket, seven pairs of leggings and 10 jumpers?

Tragically, even women in the Middle East who wear burkas are at risk.

Please, misogynists, really think before you claim a statement like that.

Sadly and pathetically, we live in a society where animals are dressed as humans. That’s what’s going wrong with the World as we know it. Every one of us needs to be vigilant – but that doesn’t mean sacrificing a night out or wearing every garment of clothing we have in our wardrobes just as a precaution. All you need is a can of Pepper Spray, learning martial-arts as self-defense, or downloading a safety app where you can press a button to alert the emergency services.

Don’t let anyone tell you how to dress, just be cautious and protect yourselves (and each other).

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Photo Credit: @MikeFerrell (Twitter)

I want to take a moment to thank every woman, man, baby, child, and pet who went along and marched the streets across the UK and the World, this weekend. 🙌

I also would like to thank the famous figures who attended or are spreading the message and raising awareness; as well as the young and elder leaders who are writing and performing empowering, intellectual and intelligent speeches to the masses. Their speeches are enough to evoke belief, feeling and a sense of okayness in the stressful times that we are currently under, politically. It is times like these that we need to unite in solidarity against hate, oppression and the many faults in society.

This weekend, we celebrated the fact that ignorance, fickleness and hatred has not won, isn’t winning and will not win – contrary to what statistics have us believing.

The sexist bigots in society, some of whom have more power than others, may have won an election, but they won’t win the battle nor the war that is the rest of this lifetime.

Remember, there are millions of people across Earth marching for the same reasons: equality, a better life, and a better future.

Parents are taking their children along to these rallies to prove that their children’s generations are voting next. They’ll hopefully make the more logical choices. Others are taking their children along so that they prove a point that they are standing for their future. They want a future for their children that doesn’t involve uncertainty, fear, inequality, and racism, sexism, disabled(ism), religionism, homophobia etc.

Together, when showing a united front, the People can win!

Those who engage in “locker-room talk” aren’t the People’s choice… If they are, I’m sorry to say, #WomensMarch proved otherwise. “A picture paints a thousand words.” Angle or not!

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Ladies and gents, if you take anything from this post, take that we are One. We stand together, and we have no choice but to empower one another.

Conversely, we don’t have to march the streets to show solidarity. We can do it via blogging, social-media, spreading the word through face-to-face, over-the-phone discussions or other means.

Women and men are equal until proven… Equal. Let’s not let the fact that the clocks seemingly went back 300 years in November (and then officially yesterday) affect that.

Peace to all!

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Me with My ‘Red Nose’.

Hi guys and dolls,

We are taking part in Comic Relief‘s Red Nose Day, this year! I love everything to do with fundraising, curing causes or creating a better future for others… Then again, doesn’t everybody? There is a real sense of accomplishment attached to knowing that you have helped better at least one person’s life by donating.

For those of you who don’t know, Comic Relief is a National UK Charity and it runs an annual fundraising night where celebrities and civilians get together to raise money for various causes and issues that we face both in society and across the World.

The Red Nose Day celebrations are broadcast on TV, similarly to BBC‘s Children In Need.

We were asked to choose our own Red Noses last week, at random… I chose one like the rest of them. Guess which one I get? The “Nose-It-All”. Not sure if that’s an omen for “try not to looks like you know everything when you clearly don’t” or if it’s just a case of mere coincidence. Either way, I don’t know much, but I do know a hair wash and/or brush wouldn’t go amiss (if the picture above is anything to go by).

This year, Comic Relief’s Red Nose Day falls on the 23rd March. I’m excited but am wanting your help. I need ideas for what to do to raise money! Bake sale? Sponsored activity? … Any cool or quirky ideas are welcome!

Love,

Miamii

xxx

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With Valentine’s Day around the corner, what do you buy a guy who’s seemingly got everything? … More things, that’s what!

Before reading further, I want you to know that whatever you end up choosing, it’s the thought that counts…

I’m not a man but I do know enough about their species to know that they appreciate the fact that we’ve gone to the effort of purchasing or planning something special for them. Having said that, the only way to really get it right is if you are aware of his loves and/or dislikes…

It’s pretty simple really… If he’s into fashion, have a look at his wardrobe, check for colours, styles, and sizes and BOOM! #jackpot

Similarly, if he likes gaming, check what type of computer, XBOX or PlayStation games he enjoys playing and check for similar games that have good reviews (which he doesn’t already own a copy of).

Personally, I’d steer away from watches – I’m a little superstitious in that sense… They say that if you give someone a watch it suggests you’re counting down the hours until your relationship ends…  I also wouldn’t get my significant other a cologne, unless I knew the name of the one he wears and know that it’s running out.

Really and truly, it’s all a case of being a bae/girlfriend/fiancé/wife ninja and trying to figure out what he’s interested in… If he likes movies, get him some DVDs. If he likes Disney, go to the Disney Store and have a look round for what’s on offer… Same with comics. If he’s a comic book nerd, check out your nearest comic book store for inspiration.

The failsafe options would be boxers, socks, a gift card which – come to think of it – doesn’t sound like a bad idea if they’re big on iTunes or Amazon etc.

Alternatively, if he’s into football, you could try booking a tour of his team’s football ground or taking him to watch them play? If that’s not possible, buy him a customised Home and/or Away (not the soap) shirt provided he doesn’t own one…

Also, if he leads an active lifestyle, you could book a hike or excursion-packed weekend away?

See, although some say it’s “difficult” to buy guys the right gifts, it really isn’t… You’ve just got to know your man. You’ve got to listen to him, understand him, you’ve got to invest time into finding out what makes him tick, learning his wants, needs, interests etc. Then? Well, then you’ve won!

If you’re still unsure, why not do something really sentimental like cook him a meal, buy some massage oils and invite him round for a chilled night-in full of relaxation? That’s bound to do the trick!

At this point, if you’ve still not come up with anything, you have very little choice but to think outside the box and create a photo album, a Love Book, or doing something original like assembling a LEGO set or painting onto ceramics… Be creative. Be logical.

Whatever you end up doing, getting him or planning, he will love it, I assure you! The things guys really crave is our time and affection.

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EOS: Coconut Milk Lip Balm

This is another highly celebrity endorsed product that I have been wanting to review for the longest time…

I finally have been able to because it’s Winter, and in Winter, we all need a celebrity endorsed sphere lip balm which costs £6 but is so small that that you can eat it in less than one mouth full (not that you would because it goes on the lips not inside them). Am I right?

I purchased EOS‘ (Evolution of Smooth) Coconut Milk. I’m not going to lie to you, the only other reason I bought it (other than wanting to see what all the fuss was about) was that it claims to be Organic. I love Organic produce, I try to use as much Organic things as possible, especially in my meals.

Get noticed with visibly softer lips. Nourish your lips and enjoy the delicious flavor of this coconut milk lip balm!

The packaging of EOS Lip Balm sphere? As small as it is, there’s no denying it’s unique, and cute. The Coconut Milk one came in a pale pink sphere which was sweet.

The scent? Delicious. Like Coconut Milk which is expected because I purchased a Coconut Milk lip balm… 😂 Imagine if it came smelling like Chicken. I’d send it back or deliver it to the ‘Pengest Munch’ and self-titled: ‘Chicken Connoisseur’ to review! It’s hardly “roadman” worthy, but it’ll do…

Taste? 😋 I wanted to eat it in one sitting. But, the cost, along with the fact that it’ll never fill me up, had me abstaining!

The result? Your bog standard lip balm. Yes, the ingredients – as far as I know – are organic, but the results are not extra-terrestrial or noticeable. What I mean is, no one has stopped me in the street to tell me that my lips look “Organic”. My friends don’t say: “Oh wow! Your lips felt a special kind of Organic on my cheeks, you wearing EOS?” when I go to give them a little peck. I’m not denying that my lips didn’t feel soft afterwards, but isn’t that the main purpose of a lip balm? You wouldn’t buy a lip balm if it said it’ll make your lips dry and coarse, would you?

Price? LOL. Just, LOL. (and I’m not talking Miley Cyrus’ – who has endorsed EOS on her Insta – film). £6 for a tiny pot of lip balm which hydrated as much as a Vaseline tin would. Do the maths!

Is it work six “squids”? If it weren’t for its “organic” claim, I’d have said no. It’s too small and doesn’t hydrate my lips any more than a usual lip balm that I could get for a pound or two. Vaseline is cost-effective and works better. But, then, you’re not buying into a celebrity endorsed product when you purchase a tin of petroleum jelly. 😂

The moral of this post is: just ’cause it’s endorsed, that doesn’t mean that it’s an exceptional product for its price… Although, as I said, I suppose you’re buying into the brand and Organic produce which makes up for it, I suppose…

Look – it works, I just expected a little more from it. Remember, celebrities most probably don’t use this every day! Don’t forget that they have enough money to get laser lip treatments (if such things exist) if they wanted!