Below, I will be sharing my ways of coping with depression, anxiety and the like…

This actually isn’t the first time I’ve discussed anxiety on here, but today’s a day that warrants a repost or a reshare.

1) remember the things that you live for, the people you live for… Yes, I know this one’s somewhat difficult to do in the moment, but you’d be surprised how for every negative thought, a replacement of a positive one goes a long way…

According to science, if you remind yourself of three things that you’re most thankful for each day for 21 days, this rewires your brain to fix our chain of thought to become more positive.

2) pace yourself. Set short-term goals that you can achieve each day. If you struggle to leave the house when you’re at your lowest, motivate and encourage yourself to step outside, even just standing in your front yard. Each day, go a few steps further and before you know it, you’ll be back to being able to go out.

The other way is to push yourself completely out of your comfort  zone. Rather than pacing yourself, just bite the bullet. Go out, but take someone you trust with you and take a tranquilliser medication with you too, to calm you down. honestly, although I didn’t realise this at the time, this one helped the most.

3) CBT, counselling and or talking about it to people who you trust

This one is important. Look, plenty of mental illnesses can be cured just by talking about what’s bothering you. Yes, medications help to cope, but all they do is get rid of it for the duration of time you’re taking the dose. Essentially, it’s like putting a plaster on the problem and not treating it from the root.

No matter how difficult it is, if you can’t talk about it, you’re not going to fully heal. Of course, it’s not a bad thing if you can’t discuss it right away, you need to be ready. That’s fine too. It’s just, it’s impossible to get rid of the problem completely if you’re bottling it up. I always tell my friends this all the time. Whatever it is, it’s better out than in – not just flatulence and/or burps.

4) only do things that bring you joy

I watch TV, blog like crazy, and spend time with my mum, BFFS and brother a lot. Thinking of Bae a bit a lot helps as well. These are the things that keep us grounded. Bae keeps ME grounded, hopefully not like a teenager would be, but still.

5) cut the negatives from your life

Negative things are a form of toxins. You need to rid them from your life in order to heal. Remove them and you’ll start to live better.

6) Mindfulness/meditation

Guided meditation is incredible. It saved me. Honestly, they’re everything. If you don’t like meditating, listen to podcasts. They’re legit perfection.

Here’s something I don’t always talk about, but I should today…

I went through this. Two years ago. Yeah, I could hide it, and try to pretend it didn’t happen, or I could say that I went through it and came out of the other side.

I suppose I’m now ready to talk about it… I went through it because I had been bullied a lot as a child right through to the age of 17. I guess, I didn’t really know any different until after I moved schools. I suppose, going through it that long, you either get used to it and/or believe that everyone goes through it too…

Then, after leaving my old school and entering a new one, I met someone really abusive, mentally. That wasn’t fun either… I think this is one of the reasons why I don’t usually get into relationships – I mean, I wasn’t dating this guy but he was a complete creep. I literally had to get the police involved.

The reason I’m opening up about this now is because I feel like this can help someone… We all go through stuff. Terrible stuff. It’s the strong ones who are able to come out the other side that are the winners.

For me, although I was at the rockest of all bottoms, my saving grace was that I kept thinking of “tomorrow”. I never told myself I’d do “it” today. I always said “if I’m still feeling like this tomorrow, I’ll do it”. The same went on for as long as it did…

I was a junior youth worker aged 13. When the majority of my peers in Dagenham were getting pregnant, drinking and smoking – I was campaigning against it, running seminars against children doing these things. I’d set up classes, theatre trips to get people off the streets, and did all I could to be a shoulder to cry on for the bullied.

One thing you need to know about me, I was someone who was too strong to comprehend suicide. I understood the weaknesses of people who feel like they can’t go on, but I encouraged their strengths and made them feel like there’s stuff to live for. So, I surprised myself and everyone around me when I went through it…

My lesson is this, whoever you meet – try to be the best version of you that you can be. Honestly, there’s too much mean spiritedness everywhere and it needs to stop. Don’t agree with someone? Fine. Don’t hate on them for it. Don’t like the look of someone? Don’t hate on them for it. Don’t get along with someone? Fine. Don’t hate on them for it. There are ways to go about everything in life, and understanding that some people may be more sensitive about certain things than others is a start.

Be a nice and good human. In fact, don’t even worry about the nice and good bit, just be HUMAN. Love as much as you can and spread as much joy as you can.

I always thought it’s easier to be nice than it is to be horrible… I mean, you have to THINK about the negative things to say to people, right? Like, mean people must put their curses into audition and figure out strongest and most likely to bring someone down… What a waste of a life. Get a hobby.

That is all I wanted to say. To the nice people out there, keep being nice and if you go through stuff, it’s okay. I mean, it shouldn’t be but we’re human. Alas, we live in a society where the idiots are too brave and the legends lack it.

 

TTYL,

Miamii

xxxx

heatwave UKI’ve just hopped (like a kangaroo) on here to discuss the importance of You.

Right, there’s a lot I can say, but I’ll try to keep it under 10,000 words. Emphasis on the word ‘try’.

First and foremost, you should smile 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 4 weeks a month, 12 months a year – yadi yadah.

Second and Formosa, you’re legit a legend.

Third and utmost, remember that those who are first to pass negative judgement and/or give criticism are the same people who do nothing but sit around jobless, trying to get rises out of people like it pays their bills. While you are smashing it, doing you, being the best, they cry into their cereal and do nothing but troll from their dim, cardboard box room.

Fourth and mostmost, you’re a special little fella, aren’t you? You bring love, light, energy, and all the good stuff. You have saved people’s lives and brightened people’s days no end. You’ve made people who didn’t even want to smile or laugh cry with happy tears. Every time you hit a snag, remember this. There’s no One better.

As I said, there’s more, plenty more – but, I’ll stop. Remember this, an opinion is valid, always. Also, if you’re not being criticised, you’re not doing well enough. Haters only hate on people who’re better than them, and greater.

Thanks.

Godly blessings.

I once ate a whole wasabi. My friends recorded the whole thing.

As I mentioned briefly before, my love for the botanicals is actually becoming out of control… I don’t know if I’ll wake up tomorrow and find branches where my bones used to be, but for now – know that I smell like tea tree, a bit a lot.

Right, back to Australin BodyCare, not that we were on the subject to start with but, hey, ho! Hi, ho! On with this blog post I go *whistles to the Seven Dwarves*. 🎶

Legit, currently and before currently, I always (never) asked myself if there was some sort of malfunction at my birth… When I consider and ponder this, you’ll all be the firsts to know.

I smell like tea tree. That’s all I really wanted to say… Tea Tree smells somewhat potent. Therefore, I don’t exactly know why I’m writing a whole blog post about it… I mean, it’s nothing to write home (or shout from the rooftops about). In essence, I smell like PG Tips before they became loose leaf tea bags… That’s it.

I bought the body lotion, shower gel and scrub. I’m going to be real with you, it doesn’t help when you smell like other people’s sweat. I don’t know what you heard, but it’s almost impossible to travel on TfL without leaving the tube with every single person who shared that carriage with’s sweat and germs…

It’s like a little disgusting gift that TfL give you for topping up your Oyster and using their sometimes always delayed and/or on-strike service. (Especially if you lead the life I do and have people coughing and/or sneezing in your face at every opportunity they get.)

Join me here tomorrow- same time, same place, where I’ll divulge into the contents of the times I caught TfL flu aplenty.

Again, let’s cast our minds back to what we were discussing before I went on the germ-infested tangent that is TfL… You might need to use more than one body wash, because if you use it on its own, you’ll smell like a BO’d tree. No matter how much I love trees, that – right there is the point where I declare myself “out” – like they do on Dragon’s Den.

Australian BodyCare’s packaging is pretty bog standard. Pretty and bog standard. I love the colour blue, so there you go… It’s blue. It looks like something you’d find in a bathroom… What next?!

Did I like using Australian BodyCare? It’s not the most incredible product I’ve ever applied on my skin but it’s okay… It does the job. I’m just here for smelling like a hot liquified Kew Gardens.

Thanks you, SPICEBEAN! You’re also every damn thing!

Xxx

P.S. I bought seeds to be planted in my garden because I love botanicals so much… Check back here in Spring (or before) to read all about it.

Charcoal powders are everywhere on Instagram… People are endorsing them like I’m drinking water (I drink lots of water). So, I thought it’s high time that I invest (in charcoal tooth powders) and see what all the fuss is about…

Firstly, I’d like to mention that I had a dentist appointment a few weeks ago and that the reason I wasn’t asked to come back (along with my incredibly good hygiene) was because of this (I’m assuming)…

Having said that, you know what happened to the first person to “assume”, right..? They made an ass out of the third party and themselves! Hahahaha. That one gets me every time. I love it. It’s legit my favourite saying… (I also need to get out more, once a day isn’t enough – clearly).

Anyway, back to the powder… I bought it on Amazon. However, it’s since been made unavailable but there are plenty more that you can check out…

  • FOOD GRADE INGREDIENTS: No Harmful Chemicals, No Bleach, No Fluoride, No Artificial Colors, No Preservatives. Excellent for promoting gum health, freshen breath, tartar control, teeth cleaning and whitening.
  • ORGANIC ACTIVATED COCONUT CHARCOAL: Coconut husks-based activated charcoal has the highest adsorption power and the highest effectiveness in removing impurities.
  • SAFE ON SENSITIVE TEETH: Our food grade ingredients are specially formulated to ensure the most sensitive teeth won’t suffer.
  • FRESHENS BREATH: With natural spearmint flavor, to ensure you have the fresh breath the whole day.

I’m going to be honest… I ordered a product that’s picture and brand was different to what I received. I was, in a sense, Mousefished  – a term that I’ve just made up, feel free to use it…

Mousefish – noun – a term to describe the act of ordering something on the internet, but receiving something completely different.

What I thought I’d ordered, what was advertised… Also, not what I received.

Yes, it was not what I ordered… Again, yes – I could’ve returned it but – do you know how long the process is?! I’d have to fill out the form, send it to the post office, pay for delivery – I ain’t got time. Plus, and most importantly, I researched the product to make sure I wasn’t sent something completely unusable and/or damaging to my teeth.

So, like I said, I used Vena Beauty’s mis-represented product (and have been since I bought it). I’ve got to say though that: I love it. Look, I don’t look sexy with a pitch black toothpaste-y mouth and teeth, then again I hardly look sexy without it so…

What I mean is the result (minus some granules getting stuck in between your teeth), is very nice. My teeth looked squeaky clean, my breath and entire mouth felt so fresh, oh – and it gets rid of stains whilst whitening too.

My dentist said my teeth are in great shape and I believe it’s because of this powder mainly…

Cons? The charcoal can stick to the gaps between teeth and stains the tongue a bit. If I was ever asked – which I haven’t been and won’t be – I’ll just say that I’ve been munching on that sweet liquorice bamboo, like the true panda that I am. Again, not that anyone would (ask)…

Notice: I would never and have never left my house with a weird looking tongue/mouth. I might not brush my hair and almost never wear make-up, but I keep my smile clean at all times. Thanks. It’s nice to know where I draw the line…

This post may or may not have added value to your life. I hope it has, but no worries if it hasn’t. Carry on being an absolute LEGEND.

Love,

Miamii

xxx