Real Issues That Affect Us

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I am just one in an ocean of people who love those of all races, religions, genders, sexualities and backgrounds. Don’t let what’s happening in the World right now (coming from a minority with a loud voice) make you forget that!

Together, we will trump hate, misogyny, homophobia, xenophobia, racism and sexism! Let’s stand tall and be as one against bigots of both great or little power.

Love,

Miamii

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Where are the ‘This Morning‘ production team finding their guests, please? I mean, in the space of less than one week there have been two misogynistic views raised by none other than women!

First it was that “women are more likely to be sexually assaulted if they dress provocatively” and now it’s “women who don’t wear make-up are less likely to secure a job after an interview”.

I’m actually getting extremely tired of this crap now! I expected that (after the very liberating and powerful #WomensMarch) we would be more accepting of femininity and of ladies in general. Alas, we’ve since had women openly shading us on a public scale! If we women are being this misogynistic towards each other, what message are we sending to the chauvinistic and bigoted men like Trump, Farage and Morgan?

Ladies, whether you wear make-up or not, whether you wear provocative clothes or not – you do you! Do what makes you happy! Don’t conform to ideals set by others just to “fit in”. Embrace yourself, embrace your body, embrace your face, your beauty and your character.

When you go for a job interview – provided you’ve showered, look clean, your body language is on point and you’re dressed somewhat smartly (as though you’ve made an effort) – nothing else matters!

If make-up is not your thing, I envy you. At least your skin will age slower and you’re what can be described as a “natural beauty”. Also, you’re getting an extra however many minutes or hours to sleep in the morning! RESULT!

I’ve never actually come across a Job Specification or Description which highlights that a woman “needs to wear make-up” in order to be hired – well, unless they’re applying for jobs at MAC or beauty counters in department stores, that is…

Let me remind you that there are women on Earth who are creating revolutions for us against make-up and fore it. Chimamanda and Alicia Keys to name a couple!

Your skills, personality, body language, experience and what you say in an interview are what get you hired, not what you look like facially. The company also has to consider whether you’re a good fit culturally, again, this has nothing to do with whether you’re partial to eyeliner, some mascara, and a lippie nor does it have anything to do with the fact that you can ‘Kontour Like a Kardashian‘.

Besides, would you hire someone who looks as though they should be appearing on ‘Snog, Marry, Avoid’? Less is definitely more (depending on the type of role you’re applying for).

Love and light,

Miamii

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‘Beauty Bae’ won its SECOND ‘Blogger Recognition Award‘ in less than a month, yesterday! 🏆

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Thank you very much, Bex Faye, for the nomination! I’ve already told you this but: Bex + Fae = BAE. How? Well, B(ex) (F)a(y)e. 👯‍♂️

I don’t want to rewrite what wrote last time but this blog began as a way of giving my hobby (make-up collecting and wearing) a new meaning. I now also collect and wear it for you!

Two new tips for newbie bloggers? Start, just start writing and you’ll see the rest will follow… There is no time like the present, and everyone/everything has to start somewhere. Secondly, choose the time you post carefully, unless you’re bored (like me, currently) and are suffering from insomnia (also me).

I would like to nominate:

1) Babbling Beauty (nice reviews!)

2) Beauty As I See (great content!)

3) Beauty by Aneesa (one of my very first followers)

4) Bex Faye (you were always going to be in this list).

5) Beauty & the Ballroom (again!)

🚨 Disclaimer: my listed bloggers (should they choose to accept their nominations) are to thank the person/s who nominated them, outline how their blog/idea first came about and should give two tips on how newbies or aspiring bloggers can get rid of those first-time blogger/blogging nerves, then they should list their nominations! I look forward to reading your posts. 🚨

📝 Please note that most of my nominees (this time) are bloggers who I’ve known since last year, to commemorate my One Year WordPress-aversary, three days ago. 📝

I will continue to support and interact with all my current (and newer) followers as well as prospective ones!

Thank you, you’re all great and I love you.

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I am flabbergasted to hear that there was a debate on ITV‘s ‘This Morning‘, where someone claimed that the ways in which victims of sexual assault dress play a part in whether a perpetrator is going to perpetrate!

I am appalled that we live in such a society where we still believe the way people carry themselves, dress, talk or behave makes them a target of such atrocious crimes.

In publicly declaring such a misogynistic claim, we are taking a percentage of fault from the perpetrator. So, where a perpetrator should be 100% liable for their crimes, they become something like 65% liable simply because someone decided that dressing “provocatively” adds to the “risk”. Sorry,  correct me if I’m wrong, but – should there even be a risk in the first place?!?!

There is a sad reminder every day in the newspapers we read and magazines we pick up that women, men, children, and teenagers (boys and girls) across the World have been victims of abuse (sexual, physical and the like).

Are you telling me that a baby is dressing “provocatively”? Are you telling me a man in a suit or woman in a blouse and smart trousers is dressed “provocatively” on their way to work? Are you telling me that students in school-uniform are dressed “provocatively”?

I know a man who was on the London Underground, standing on the escalators, he was sexually assaulted by another man in broad daylight! (this man was wearing a suit, carried a briefcase and was going to work at the time).

Dressing up (or down) has no part to play in a crime. The sad reality is, if someone is in the vicinity of a perpetrator or at-risk perpetrator, and they are in their sights, it’s going to happen. 💔

Rather than claiming “women’s attire” is to blame, we should be putting full blame on the criminals and educating everyone on the dangers of rape, as well as the different types of sexual assaults. If that’s not possible (which it totally is – even though we shouldn’t have to as it should be a known fact), then the Govs. should lock-up perpetrators and/or people at risk of perpetrating.

What’s more, pubs, bars, and clubs should refuse to serve at-risk perpetrators with alcoholic drinks on-tap for fear that this could lead to an offence… Because, if “dressing less provocatively” will lower the chances of rape, then so will not providing perpetrators with “excessive amounts of alcohol” and prohibiting them from “attending events deemed as risk-inducing”.

Bottom line is: when one goes to the beach, we are dressed in bikinis, swimsuits or trunks which, in essence, are outer versions of underwear. Does that mean we are inviting others to touch us? What do misogynists dress like when they’re at the beach, in a North Face jacket, seven pairs of leggings and 10 jumpers?

Tragically, even women in the Middle East who wear burkas are at risk.

Please, misogynists, really think before you claim a statement like that.

Sadly and pathetically, we live in a society where animals are dressed as humans. That’s what’s going wrong with the World as we know it. Every one of us needs to be vigilant – but that doesn’t mean sacrificing a night out or wearing every garment of clothing we have in our wardrobes just as a precaution. All you need is a can of Pepper Spray, learning martial-arts as self-defence, or downloading a safety app where you can press a button to alert the emergency services.

Don’t let anyone tell you how to dress, just be cautious and protect yourselves (and each other).

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Photo Credit: @MikeFerrell (Twitter)

I want to take a moment to thank every woman, man, baby, child, and pet who went along and marched the streets across the UK and the World, this weekend. 🙌

I also would like to thank the famous figures who attended or are spreading the message and raising awareness; as well as the young and elder leaders who are writing and performing empowering, intellectual and intelligent speeches to the masses. Their speeches are enough to evoke belief, feeling and a sense of okayness in the stressful times that we are currently under, politically. It is times like these that we need to unite in solidarity against hate, oppression and the many faults in society.

This weekend, we celebrated the fact that ignorance, fickleness and hatred has not won, isn’t winning and will not win – contrary to what statistics have us believing.

The sexist bigots in society, some of whom have more power than others, may have won an election, but they won’t win the battle nor the war that is the rest of this lifetime.

Remember, there are millions of people across Earth marching for the same reasons: equality, a better life, and a better future.

Parents are taking their children along to these rallies to prove that their children’s generations are voting next. They’ll hopefully make the more logical choices. Others are taking their children along so that they prove a point that they are standing for their future. They want a future for their children that doesn’t involve uncertainty, fear, inequality, and racism, sexism, disabled(ism), religionism, homophobia etc.

Together, when showing a united front, the People can win!

Those who engage in “locker-room talk” aren’t the People’s choice… If they are, I’m sorry to say, #WomensMarch proved otherwise. “A picture paints a thousand words.” Angle or not!

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Ladies and gents, if you take anything from this post, take that we are One. We stand together, and we have no choice but to empower one another.

Conversely, we don’t have to march the streets to show solidarity. We can do it via blogging, social-media, spreading the word through face-to-face, over-the-phone discussions or other means.

Women and men are equal until proven… Equal. Let’s not let the fact that the clocks seemingly went back 300 years in November (and then officially yesterday) affect that.

Peace to all!