Real Issues That Affect Us

2018 has been a year for reflection and understanding. I’ve finally been able to get my head out of the clouds or sand (other places available upon request) and into reality. It was like a reckoning or an awakening that I needed.

As much as it hurt, and still does, the lesson that 2018 has taught me is the ability to notice a pipe dream from an achievable goal.

I was known as a forward thinker, future-planner and someone who’s dreams were bigger than their personality. It was just a part of me, I never noticed it until this year… It’s amazing when you step back to evaluate yourself and realise that it was all you’ve known.

My thoughts and perceptions had been a certain way for 26 years, so it was hard for me to accept that it wasn’t a reality nor that it never had been.

When you’re a forward thinker, you have plans, ideas and visions… You strive to make those visions happen. But, if those visions, ideas and/or plans involve other people who aren’t physically in your life at present – don’t (or do, but only for fun – in a story or film).

If your dreams involve other people, that is a ‘pipe dream’. If a dream involves no one else but you, it’s an ‘achievable goal’. Simple.

You can’t force someone or do anything in your power to make them want to share that dream nor want to make it a reality with you.

Therefore, it’s better not to waste your own time on this… Focus on those dreams that involve only you. We are in control of our own destiny where those are concerned.

Yes, your dreams that involve others can work out, but they don’t always pan out the way we’d hoped and there’s always a reason. Patience allows something more suited to you to come along in time…

However, a whopping 89% of those dreams that involve only us can be made into a reality if we not only believe but stay persistent and most importantly: work hard.

Don’t give up. Don’t give in. Do your best.

Dreams that involve just us are achievable because: we are the only ones in control. What we put in, we get out. Whereas, if it’s a ‘pipe dream’ involving others, we can put in 110%, but what we get out of it is not in our control.

Tip: strive for greatness for you and only you. If things are meant to be, they will. But, you’d have spent your time focusing on yourself and changing your reality during the time when you were the only one in it at the time.

Then, when it’s your time to build a future with someone, it will no longer be a pipe dream, but an achievable goal.

To conclude, only build a future or dream with someone when they’re there, beside, in front or around you. Until then, do but not to the extent that you’re attaching hopes or visions – because one day, you’ll look back and realise you were wishing on planes the whole time (not stars).

2018 has been one of the hardest years for me, personally. Just when I thought I’d done all the growing I needed to do previously, something comes out of the woodwork which I need to deal with and learn from. That’s life…

I found 2018 particularly difficult because it was the year of bubble bursting, awakening and reality checking. I had spent years of my life planning or hoping for stuff that weren’t even a reality and looking back, never would be. It’s hard when you’ve put your all into something only to step back and see you’ve achieved nothing this whole time.

So, I guess the message is: it’s great to dream big and have high hopes, but also don’t expect anything from them. Discern between a pipe dream and an achievable goal. That way, you won’t be disappointed.

 

If you’re in the UK, you’d have heard that England was able to raise £50k to fly a “flying Donald Trump manbaby balloon” around London… A total of £50k was raised, enough to take it from an idea to reality.

Now, I’m all about fun and games… I appreciate a joke as much as the next person and, yes, I did find the thing quite funny. But, when you think about it a little more seriously – in effect, we were able to raise £50k for a flying “manbaby” balloon in times when our NHS is on the brink of closure and our youths are out there ruining their futures by joining gangs.

Our society is a mess. Yet, all we do is complain. Could we not have raised £50k for the NHS? Could we not have raised another 50k (going towards the Sadiq Khan manbaby balloon) towards building a solid foundation for our youths; creating activities or programmes/courses for our youths to take up outside of school?

Why do we rely on the Gov. when we’ve just proven that we can raise the money ourselves? I can’t believe that we’re able to raise £100k in total for flying manbabies that will only be used in protest, but won’t put our money where our mouths are to make a more permanent and long-lasting difference to our society.

I am not a partypooper. I’m just a realist. Complaining about our issues doesn’t eliminate them… Hard work and change does. I understand it’s just for a laugh, but there are families crying over loss of their friends/families while we’re laughing at flying manbabies. So, let’s help the people in suffering laugh with and out of joy rather than just focusing on ourselves and who we’re going to laugh at or mock.

As a society, we have proven we can singlehandedly raise enough money to make a difference. So, rather than spending the funds we are able to raise collectively on silly things, let’s put it towards our youths and/or health service. This will in turn protect our youths and give our life-threatening illness suffering peers, friends and relatives a better and longer future.

I have arthritis and it’s something I’ve been dealing with for a while. Yes, I’m 26 – not 89. Although, my love for aqua aerobics means I’m already there… I’m a grandma before I even became a mum. SURPRISE! For you, and not me. I knew it was coming… I love pigeons, community centres and aqua aerobics. I’m an old soul. If anyone wants to find me an old-people’s home which has a room spare, comment below.

All sarcasm aside, it’s serious. My arthritis is very serious. It’s, in my opinion, the worst type of arthritis too… The kind where you literally can’t avoid it. I have reactive arthritis which basically means I get flare ups when my body suffers infection. When I came back from New York in February, I came back with a severe chest infection. My body doesn’t know how to fight it, so fluid starts filling up in my right knee. Not that my right knee can do ANYTHING for my chest… But, at least it tries. Good on my right knee for taking one for the team!

Anyway, as soon as my knee flares, it ends up debilitating me and making me sort of immobile. I’m not joking when I say on some occasions, I cannot walk on that leg at all. Like my knee trying to sort out my chest issues, I try to walk to get to work and/or other places but end up imitating a penguin. Waddling or limping there.

There was actually a moment where I crossed paths with a stranger who was limping too. He was having problems with his right knee also. Mad, right? We stopped, looked at each other before pointing straight at our knees and saying: “liability!”

I think that’s the best part of it, meeting people who also have knee ailments. You kind of bond over the fact that you can’t even walk on occasions. I’ll tell you what’s not the best part – going to check-ups or MRIs. I hope I never have to endure MRIs ever again. It’s like VR but showing you what it feels like after you die. Ain’t no one got time for that…

Is there a cure? Not getting infections. So, in a word, no there isn’t a cure.

Do I take any tablets for it? Yeah, an iPad. Hahaha! I want to die.