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Hey guys,

I just wanted to chuck out a quick post on anxiety. Look, you might read my Twitter, Facebook and blog thinking that I’m a really happy person all of the time, wrong. I’m not always happy. Some days, like today, I get down and depressed/anxious – sometimes, like today, for no reason at all…

For me, I think it’s the weather. Today was really rainy, grey and dull. It looked super depressive and overcast.

Anxiety can strike at any moment and comes in a range of extremes. You can’t really plan it, but you can definitely notice the signs. If you notice the signs before it’s too late, you can prevent a meltdown.

What are the signs?

1) palpitations and uneasiness – when your heart starts racing or beating faster and you can feel in yourself that there’s a sort of emptiness or weird feeling coming over you.

The way to counteract those is through breathing techniques and trying to find out exactly what it is that’s causing the uneasiness. Could it be that you’ve changed something in your routine? Had something on your mind? Drank or taken something that you wouldn’t usually take? For instance, I was on a really bad concoction of weight loss supplements, and that spurred on severe anxiety a couple of years ago.

2) racing thoughts – do your thoughts run at a million miles per hour, forcing your head to overheat?

The way to stop this from happening is by doing a mindfulness podcast. There are great podcasts that calm the nerves. You can find them online.

3) bad/negative feelings – these are just feelings that you’re going to have to let pass. Some days are just not our days. Those feelings are an indication of that, if and only if it carries on for longer than normal, seek medical help. You can get referred to the psychologist or a counsellor. You can also get a prescription for antidepressants or tranquilizers. What I will say though is – don’t rely on them. It’s not healthy or safe to get used or addicted to them.

4) hyper sensitive to noise and emotions – this one is a tough one to get rid of because first you’ve got to establish what it isn’t that’s causing the hyper-sensitivity, then you’ve got to try to avoid the places or situations that bring it on. That’s hard. Especially when you don’t know why the heck you’re feeling anxious in the first place. I mean, if there’s nothing that you can put your finger on, nothing going on to make you feel that way; it could just be a hormone or emotional imbalance that’s passing through. Let it.

Seriously, the only way to beat anxiety is to know that there’s a better day awaiting you in tomorrow. The precise moment that anxiety strikes might not be for you, but tomorrow will be. Don’t dwell, don’t think about it too much. Distract yourself. Watch something hysterical, do something you enjoy, be with the people who make you laugh/happy. Life’s too short for anything else.

Alternatively, just speak to a friend or friends who you can trust and you know won’t judge. If you’re spiritual, a prayer or meditation helps too. The main thing is to not let it get you down, or worse than you are already feeling.

Remember, it’s a phase, it’ll pass and what you’re stressing about (if anything at all) will be a distant memory or not even one come next year. It’s really not that deep.

Enjoy every moment, and try to find the positive of the anxiety. The fact that you’re able to notice that you’re anxious is a huge plus. Trust me when I say there are people who don’t realise it until it’s too late. They don’t even the right tools to deal with it so the healing process takes longer. Don’t let that be you. Don’t be ashamed of anxiety either. Only the greats get anxious.

Anxiety occurs in people who are hyper sensitive and caring. Granted that being hyper-sensitive might not be perceived in society as a good thing, but at least you’ve got feelings. I have too much of them. Sensitivity is a massive turn on. Also, who doesn’t want to be caring?! It’s the nicest trait ever (equal with being funny).

The important thing is that whatever it is, don’t bottle it up. Speak to someone. Do something about it. Mental health is the most important of the health. It affects the rest of our organs, so make sure it’s been well treated, well fed (in thoughts). Keep it positive. A smile is of most importance. Keep smiling, even when you really don’t feel like it. Your mind will get tricked into releasing serotonin and endorphins that are responsible for making us happy.

Finally, the trick is to make yourself feel happy, even if you might not feel it during times of anxiety and depression. It’s easy for us to crack when we hit an all time low, but remember that you can only go up from there. Try to make a strength from your weaknesses without adding unnecessary pressure.

That’s all I wanted to say. If you ever need a chat, you know where I am. X

You are blessed if dance has found its place in your soul!

It’s the only rhythmic exercise that is complete in itself and amplifies mind and body coordination, it’s not just an exercise but also joyful, entertaining way of attaining happiness and pleasure. In some dance, forms are considered as meditation or worship, as they embrace your soul and soothe it to the core. Vanishes all your despairs, sorrows, anxieties and improves you as a person.

Being a dancer is certainly not a bed of roses, you are more likely to get callous, sore feet at the end of the day, but you would not be bothered anymore with bruises once you will find your love for dancing.

Find Your Love For Dancing

# Enrich Your Dance Experience

To enrich your experience, take up professional dance classes, as there you will learn from the professionals, that have a systematic way of teaching you at all stages, they can explore your strengths and weaknesses and would train you accordingly.

# Beneficial to Health

Professional dance classes are as an investment for health, not just physical but also mental and emotional. Many studies have verified positive impacts of dancing on humans. In fact, in some places people suffering from depression and other mental health issues are benefitting from dance.

You can tell the difference in personality, as you see people those have taken up professional dance classes, as they move with confidence. When you are feeling healthy and light it shows in your walk, dance is an overall exercise for your body, including lungs, face, feet, hands, bones, it doesn’t only strengthen you internally but also boosts your stamina and vitality. Along with all this, it also helps you in improving your posture and body control.

# Learn to Express Through Dance

Science has proved, people those who dance decrease their chances of suffering from dementia (memory loss), so when you dance you are benefitting your whole body. It reduces stress levels, and enables you to be a mentally healthy well-being. Dance of any form teaches you to express your inner emotions, in dancing it’s all about expressing and empathizing, which is lost in this world of digital signals.

Find Your Love For Dancing

So, let’s look below for more health benefits and you would want to join a professional dance class as soon as you finish reading this article:

Rebuilding resilience– At some stages of life, you might start feeling as if your determination, your resilience has been lost somewhere. Hence, take up a professional dance class to find your quality of never giving up and to survive all the pain till you succeed. You will fall you will have sore feet but still you won’t give up and at last, when you will succeed by mastering this art, you will stand an inch taller, with your proud head high in sky. Dance imbibes the quality of accomplishing your goals and climbing your skies. In spite of all these qualities, you would be very humble because you have not reached there overnight, and you know the pain you have borne to be there.

Improve your social skills– Find it difficult to interact with strangers? Do you have a stage fear that stops you from giving any presentations in boardrooms? Don’t worry! When you take up a professional dance classes, you start interacting with so many people around you. Hence, you will get comfortable in the presence of people. You will start knowing about them and you will realize they are so alike. That is when you are unknowingly improving your social skills. You will find you are no more afraid of going up a stage and flaunting your skills.

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When you are all ready to set the stage on fire with your ballet performance but the only thing missing is the perfect dress you visualised yourself to be wearing. It can be an addition to this frustration if all the local ballet stores just do not have the type of dress you want. To avoid all this confusion, it is a great idea to look for the dress you want on an online ballet store. An online ballet store has a wide variety of designs and styles available as it is functioning on a large scale. For people who have never shopped for ballet clothes online, it may seem to be a little confusing, but in reality, it is extremely simple.

ballet outfit

Online Ballet Store

Here are a few tips for beginners to get a perfect outfit from an online ballet store:

  • Ensure that you are up to date with your measurements: You need to know your body measurements accurately. In a local store, you can just try on an outfit and decide the fitting size. But that would not be possible in an online store. So, you will have to take the help of your measurements and the size chart to determine the size of your required outfit. As you may already be aware that the sizing of various manufacturers may vary, do not neglect the size chart. Always compare the size chart provided on the website of the online ballet store and only then place the final order. If you place an order for the wrong size, the outfit may fail to fit as required.
  • Read the details of the outfit: Do not get lured by the pictures of the outfit. Read all the details of the material provided along with it. The outfits may appear attractive in the pictures but may not be of the cloth material that you require. So never get carried away just by the pictures. Also look for all the other details you may require.

ballet outfit

Online Ballet Store

  • Do not shy away from asking questions: Just like a local store, an online ballet store has several representatives available to solve your queries about their products. So, if you have any questions of the features of any outfit, ask them straight away. They will help you out and thus, you can have a happy shopping experience.
  • Go through the customer reviews and research materials: Ensure that you go through the customer reviews of the product. This is a feature that is not available in local stores. So why not take advantage of it? Look at the reviews to determine how satisfied the customers who have already bought it are. This will give you a clear idea of the quality of the outfit. Also, look into the type of material. It would be really frustrating to receive a dress that looks amazing but feels like sandpaper on your skin. As you are unable to touch the fabric and distinguish the texture of the outfit by looking at the pictures on an online ballet store, it would be advisable to familiarise yourself the fabric content before hitting the buy now button.

 With these tips, you are all set to buy your perfect new ballet outfit from an online ballet store. All you need to take care of is the date of delivery of the product. As it is an online store, it may take a little time for the item reaching you after you have ordered it. So, make sure you do not procrastinate on the buying process and treat it as a priority instead. Make sure you look into the return policies on the online ballet store and schedule your purchase with a margin of a few days before the performance.

This blog post was guest written by Mary Mathis. Follow her on the links provided below.

Tres Leches

Aloha! Welcome to another Bake with ‘Mii!

I’ve got the recipe for a DELECHES cake that’s made up of TRES milks! You wanna read it? Keep scrolling and them eyes rolling. There’s not much to say other than to CHOW DOWN!

Ingredients:

  • 3 cups of sifted self raising or all-Purpose flour (Power)
  • 2 level tspns baking powder + 1 heaped tspn baking soda
  • Pinch of Salt (Angelina Jolie is optional)
  • 1/2 zest of a lemon (there’s no option, Beyoncé NEEDS to be added)
  • 3 tbspns Flora butter
  • 1 cup granulated sugar
  • 3 eggs
  • 1 cup of milk
  • 400g of evaporated milk
  • 400g of condensed milk
  • cup of milk or 400g of single cream
  • Whipped cream to top
  • Cocoa powder (Coco Chanel No5, like the powder is optional)
  • Coconut desiccated/toasted shavings

Method:

  1. Mix dry ingredients together and leave aside, like a 5 football game.
  2. Inside of a deep bowl, three heaped tablespoons of Flora butter (light butter), add some granulated sugar (one cup), whisk together into a creamy consistency. Then, add three eggs individually (one at a time).
  3. At this point, you should start adding the 1/2 zest of lemon along with one teaspoon of vanilla essence (’cause nobody wants a cake that tastes or smells like omelettes!)
  4. Get your mix on. Gradually mix in the flour with the wet mixture, as soon as you see it start to thicken, you add some milk – do this TRES times.
  5. You can now transfer the mixture into a Pyrex tray (spread lightly with butter and flour). Yay! It’s ready to be baked. Enter the batter into your pre-heated oven at 180 degrees (to bake in the middle shelf) for 30 minutes.
  6. Once it’s done, take it out (obvs!) – a good tip for checking if it’s done: pierce a toothpick and if batter sticks, put it back in for at least another five minutes… However, it should be done by 30 – if you have a good, high powered oven.
  7. Before leaving to cool, pierce the top of the cake with a fork (all over).
  8. As soon as it cools, start mixing the TRES LECHES. Condensed, evaporated and whole milk (or single cream)… Pour over the top before leaving it in the fridge to soak overnight, that way, it’ll soak all in and you can have it for breakfast. 😋

Let’s talk garnish, shall we? Okay. Basically, “garnishing” has nothing to with Jennifer Garner… All it is, is the decoration. It’s just whipped cream and a dusting of cocoa powder (if you’re feeling it). I topped it with toasted coconut shavings instead though, because I love a good close shave. Mind you, a beard ain’t bad. I kinda prefer it? Especially the non-stubbly one.

ENJOY! (the beard and/or the cake).

*the image above is what it looks like prior to entering the fridge overnight*

Hey guys,

Here is my life’s musing blog post… I don’t even know how this is going to pan out nor how to write a ‘life’s musings’ post, but I’ll give it my best shot!

I want to discuss a few things that I have learned this year… I have to say that this year has been the biggest for me in terms of reflection. I have learned things I never knew, and grown as a person in such a way that I feel ready for my Level 26 (in three months).

“What’s meant for you won’t pass you.”

This one was the biggest lesson and has proven the ultimate. The saying above means that no matter what happens, you will always end up on the road that you are destined for. Whether we’re talking about career, health, love etc. everything that is destined for us will be ours…

Do you know the amount of times I pondered or worried about things – only to realise that there was legit no reason to do so whatsoever? I always worried that I’d not end up where I needed to be, but looking back, I realise it’s the stupidest thing! You always do. Everyone always does.

Sure, we go through things along the way, but by hook or by crook we arrive at our destination. Then again, it isn’t even our destination, but the destination that our spiritual guides have planned for us.

“What’s gone is gone.”

Why are you flogging a dead horse? Don’t. Quit that. What we need to understand is that everything happens for a reason. People meet us on our path for a purpose and a duration of time. If the chapter has ended, don’t go back and read it, no matter how good it might have been… Move on. Let it go.

Only we are permanent and our families (husband/wife or blood relatives) when TLC’d. Even spouses and blood relations need nurturing. Those relationships need to be nurtured. You need to dedicate your time/effort and communicate regularly and effectively. That’s the only way to keep those going.

Right – now for the good part… Relationship advice. From a single person i.e. ME. Good luck!

  • Really take time to get to know your significant other, taking part in stuff they enjoy, and not complaining about it.

The not complaining part is the biggest teacher here. Honestly, just relish in the quality time that you’re spending with them. Don’t complain.

  • Do whatever s/he asks of you with a smile 

By “do whatever s/he asks”, I don’t mean if s/he’s possessive or controlling… What I mean is, all of the intimate stuff, the stuff that make them happy. Do that to please them.

  • Take it in turns to share house duties

If you live together, you can even do house duties (domestic stuff) together… Share the load. It’s bonding and you’ll grow together as a couple.

  • Don’t call or text or be clingy when they’re out

I’m not someone who texts or calls someone a lot anyway, but I think this one is one that may help you… If your wo/man is on a night out, don’t call or text them. Wait for them to text first. When s/he texts/calls, that’s a sure fire sign that s/he’s missing you. Obviously they’re missing you even if they don’t, at that time they’re just busy or spending time with their people. Remember: having separate outings are healthy for the relationship. Sometimes, spending too much time together can be detriment.

Be respectful of their views; learning the difference between a disagreement and an argument… 

This one is SOMETHING ELSE ENTIRELY! I cannot stress enough the importance of knowing the difference between a disagreement and an argument… Just because you simply don’t agree on something, that doesn’t warrant a domestic and/or a full blown row! A disagreement is when you have different views on a particular topic, while an argument is usually a shouting match over something petty or complex (neither of which include clashing viewpoints). If they support Theresa May and you support Jeremy Corbyn, that is NOT an argument. That, right there, is a disagreement.

  • Have regular date nights

Spending time together is important. If you’re not doing that, again, are you even together? Look, we all know that being together long-term means that the initial spark is at risk of being lost. Well, what if I told you that regular date nights keeps it burning? The reason that spark is lost is because people stop doing the stuff they did to win their significant other over. Yeah, ‘work’ and ‘kids’ are all good excuses, but they’re not always valid. There are ways to work around things. Get a babysitter.

  • Focus on the little things, they’ll one day become the big things

There’s a pattern forming here… That pattern is having good attention to detail and just being fully attentive. Really focus on the little things that they do, and not taking any of them for granted. You’ll look back and realise how important it all was.

  • Stick by each other even if you don’t agree with some of the stuff they do

Advising someone about something they’ve done and mentioning how you’d have done it differently is better than scolding them for it (alone or in front of others). Well, it depends – if it was proper offensive then okay, scold them (in private), but then again, why would you get with someone who’s offensive, anyway?!

The worst thing you can do is argue with your man/lady in front of others. Also, don’t run to people after an argument. It clouds their view on the person. Best thing to do is talk it out with your significant other after, to clear the air. If it’s still bothering you, ask for a second opinion. Remember to keep some things private, others don’t need to know everything.

  • Learn the difference between private and secret

Everyone is going to be in a relationship/marriage at some point. It’s no secret (unless you’re a bigamist, in which case, what’s YOURS?! I can’t even get ONE FFS! 😂). Be private about your love life but not secretive. Don’t be one of those couples that posts a selfie a day and shows off what “bae has got” you for Christmas/Valentine’s Day. I can tell you now, NO ONE CARES!

  • Laugh together

This one’s self explanatory… Laughter is the best medicine. Do that shizz and sprinkle it everywhere like fairy dust. It’s FREE. Doesn’t cost a thing, much like Jenny from the block’s (and my) LOVE.

  • Communicate

Talk. A lot. All the time or as much as possible, It’s vital. Relationships are built on communication mostly.

  • Trust/Honesty

You’ve got to trust each other and be honest with one another form the get-go or else: what are you doing?

  • Planning

Planning stuff is vital. It strengthens and prolongs the relationship. Plan stuff together and most importantly: do them together.

  • Go on holiday

Apparently, you can find out if they’re ‘the one’ by going on a holiday with them (prior to living together). If you can stand to spend every day (for however long you go on holiday), then you’re made for each other. Congratulations.

The things you should take away from this post: don’t nag, don’t complain, argue or point score and don’t be too clingy when they’re out with other people (or in general)… Also, don’t be over jealous/zealous. Yeah, a little bit of jealousy is healthy, but if you’re going to be giving waitresses daggers just because they asked to take their order, in all honesty – you need help.

Understand that relationships aren’t traps, well, they shouldn’t be… If they don’t want to be with you, they should have that choice (as harsh as it sounds). In this case, the key is loving them enough to know that sometimes, things don’t always work out as we first thought…

Finally, balance and the importance of having your own things going on outside of the relationship. Don’t change once you go exclusive. Keep those hobbies and your personality. The worst thing you can do is lose the person that they fell in love with in the beginning. Loads of couples break up because one of them changes, no longer being the person the other fell for.

There you go, these tips will help you (I hope). If you’ve got any other tips to keep a relationship, friendship or anything else going, comment me.

Peace, love and tranquility,

Miamii

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(if you’re wondering how I’m still single after reading this post, your guess is as good as mine).