Lifestyle

Hey guys,

Here is my life’s musing blog post… I don’t even know how this is going to pan out nor how to write a ‘life’s musings’ post, but I’ll give it my best shot!

I want to discuss a few things that I have learned this year… I have to say that this year has been the biggest for me in terms of reflection. I have learned things I never knew, and grown as a person in such a way that I feel ready for my Level 26 (in three months).

“What’s meant for you won’t pass you.”

This one was the biggest lesson and has proven the ultimate. The saying above means that no matter what happens, you will always end up on the road that you are destined for. Whether we’re talking about career, health, love etc. everything that is destined for us will be ours…

Do you know the amount of times I pondered or worried about things – only to realise that there was legit no reason to do so whatsoever? I always worried that I’d not end up where I needed to be, but looking back, I realise it’s the stupidest thing! You always do. Everyone always does.

Sure, we go through things along the way, but by hook or by crook we arrive at our destination. Then again, it isn’t even our destination, but the destination that our spiritual guides have planned for us.

“What’s gone is gone.”

Why are you flogging a dead horse? Don’t. Quit that. What we need to understand is that everything happens for a reason. People meet us on our path for a purpose and a duration of time. If the chapter has ended, don’t go back and read it, no matter how good it might have been… Move on. Let it go.

Only we are permanent and our families (husband/wife or blood relatives) when TLC’d. Even spouses and blood relations need nurturing. Those relationships need to be nurtured. You need to dedicate your time/effort and communicate regularly and effectively. That’s the only way to keep those going.

Right – now for the good part… Relationship advice. From a single person i.e. ME. Good luck!

  • Really take time to get to know your significant other, taking part in stuff they enjoy, and not complaining about it.

The not complaining part is the biggest teacher here. Honestly, just relish in the quality time that you’re spending with them. Don’t complain.

  • Do whatever s/he asks of you with a smile 

By “do whatever s/he asks”, I don’t mean if s/he’s possessive or controlling… What I mean is, all of the intimate stuff, the stuff that make them happy. Do that to please them.

  • Take it in turns to share house duties

If you live together, you can even do house duties (domestic stuff) together… Share the load. It’s bonding and you’ll grow together as a couple.

  • Don’t call or text or be clingy when they’re out

I’m not someone who texts or calls someone a lot anyway, but I think this one is one that may help you… If your wo/man is on a night out, don’t call or text them. Wait for them to text first. When s/he texts/calls, that’s a sure fire sign that s/he’s missing you. Obviously they’re missing you even if they don’t, at that time they’re just busy or spending time with their people. Remember: having separate outings are healthy for the relationship. Sometimes, spending too much time together can be detriment.

Be respectful of their views; learning the difference between a disagreement and an argument… 

This one is SOMETHING ELSE ENTIRELY! I cannot stress enough the importance of knowing the difference between a disagreement and an argument… Just because you simply don’t agree on something, that doesn’t warrant a domestic and/or a full blown row! A disagreement is when you have different views on a particular topic, while an argument is usually a shouting match over something petty or complex (neither of which include clashing viewpoints). If they support Theresa May and you support Jeremy Corbyn, that is NOT an argument. That, right there, is a disagreement.

  • Have regular date nights

Spending time together is important. If you’re not doing that, again, are you even together? Look, we all know that being together long-term means that the initial spark is at risk of being lost. Well, what if I told you that regular date nights keeps it burning? The reason that spark is lost is because people stop doing the stuff they did to win their significant other over. Yeah, ‘work’ and ‘kids’ are all good excuses, but they’re not always valid. There are ways to work around things. Get a babysitter.

  • Focus on the little things, they’ll one day become the big things

There’s a pattern forming here… That pattern is having good attention to detail and just being fully attentive. Really focus on the little things that they do, and not taking any of them for granted. You’ll look back and realise how important it all was.

  • Stick by each other even if you don’t agree with some of the stuff they do

Advising someone about something they’ve done and mentioning how you’d have done it differently is better than scolding them for it (alone or in front of others). Well, it depends – if it was proper offensive then okay, scold them (in private), but then again, why would you get with someone who’s offensive, anyway?!

The worst thing you can do is argue with your man/lady in front of others. Also, don’t run to people after an argument. It clouds their view on the person. Best thing to do is talk it out with your significant other after, to clear the air. If it’s still bothering you, ask for a second opinion. Remember to keep some things private, others don’t need to know everything.

  • Learn the difference between private and secret

Everyone is going to be in a relationship/marriage at some point. It’s no secret (unless you’re a bigamist, in which case, what’s YOURS?! I can’t even get ONE FFS! 😂). Be private about your love life but not secretive. Don’t be one of those couples that posts a selfie a day and shows off what “bae has got” you for Christmas/Valentine’s Day. I can tell you now, NO ONE CARES!

  • Laugh together

This one’s self explanatory… Laughter is the best medicine. Do that shizz and sprinkle it everywhere like fairy dust. It’s FREE. Doesn’t cost a thing, much like Jenny from the block’s (and my) LOVE.

  • Communicate

Talk. A lot. All the time or as much as possible, It’s vital. Relationships are built on communication mostly.

  • Trust/Honesty

You’ve got to trust each other and be honest with one another form the get-go or else: what are you doing?

  • Planning

Planning stuff is vital. It strengthens and prolongs the relationship. Plan stuff together and most importantly: do them together.

  • Go on holiday

Apparently, you can find out if they’re ‘the one’ by going on a holiday with them (prior to living together). If you can stand to spend every day (for however long you go on holiday), then you’re made for each other. Congratulations.

The things you should take away from this post: don’t nag, don’t complain, argue or point score and don’t be too clingy when they’re out with other people (or in general)… Also, don’t be over jealous/zealous. Yeah, a little bit of jealousy is healthy, but if you’re going to be giving waitresses daggers just because they asked to take their order, in all honesty – you need help.

Understand that relationships aren’t traps, well, they shouldn’t be… If they don’t want to be with you, they should have that choice (as harsh as it sounds). In this case, the key is loving them enough to know that sometimes, things don’t always work out as we first thought…

Finally, balance and the importance of having your own things going on outside of the relationship. Don’t change once you go exclusive. Keep those hobbies and your personality. The worst thing you can do is lose the person that they fell in love with in the beginning. Loads of couples break up because one of them changes, no longer being the person the other fell for.

There you go, these tips will help you (I hope). If you’ve got any other tips to keep a relationship, friendship or anything else going, comment me.

Peace, love and tranquility,

Miamii

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(if you’re wondering how I’m still single after reading this post, your guess is as good as mine).

I want to thank inamessyworld.wordpress.com for awarding all of the blogs that they follow (including Beauty Bae) the Real Neat Blog award. Here’s my message to inamessyworld, the world can’t be too messy if you’ve just won a NEAT award. 😉

Anyway, thanks for the nomination and I’ll get cracking with answering your questions as best but probably ‘worst’ – knowing me (knowing you, HAHA 😆🎶)!

Right, first, let’s discuss the discussting rules:

1) tag/link The Nominator, ’cause they’ll “be BACK!” Arnold, is that you?

2) Thank them profusely.

3) Mention these rules.

4) Answer the questions they asked (to the best of your ability).

5) Come up with questions of your own…

6) Keep this chain going by nominating others, linking them into the post.

7) Tell your nominees about the fact that you nominated them, or don’t – ain’t nobody going to tell you what to do!

So, without further ado, much ado about LOTS OF THINGS! Here goes EVERYTHING:

What made you start blogging?

I’d like to say that I wasn’t a complete and utter nerd who knew how to code basic HTML into web servers at the age of 13, but – I can’t… I was. I loved writing, I loved web design and I loved the idea that I can write and people can read it from all over the world. Not much has changed on that front.

What would you change about yourself?

I wouldn’t have these nasalobial creases or lines at the age of 25, FFS! Do you know the length of time I take out of my day to not blog, not eat, not work and not tweet – just do FACIAL YOGA?! I mean, if I wasn’t rendered undatable before, I sure as HECK don’t look datable when I’m massaging/applying acupressure on my own face or suppressing air in my cheeks like a chipmunk.

What are your aspirations?

My aspirations are to meet bae, get married, have a couple of kids, and just live past my life expectancy. Ain’t asking for much, am I? I obviously have career aspirations, like crawl up that ladder like a baby learning to walk for the first time and/or further establishing myself as a journo – but, I’m in control of that. I am my own leader in that. The rest is fate and God’s work.

What has been your biggest struggle?

Real. The struggle is: REAL. Mick taking aside, I’m sure I hvs plenty of struggles, I just really don’t have time to A) list them all or 2) think about them. They are struggles and I’m able to overcome them.

Also, if I’ve yet to take a Mick that you know, leave their details in the comments section. I’ll be holding Mick-Taking auditions in a theatre near you to see who’ll qualify…

If you could choose one celebrity to have dinner with, who would it be?

Hmm, definitely the funniest person to exist… The founder of Klingon Klangton.

Name one thing you fear:

Being a 70 year old virgin. 🙈😂🤣😩 I mean, there’s a film about a 40 year old one but ain’t nobody reached senior level and still not got ‘it’ – other than Nuns, of course! 🙏

Your favourite song?

Sexual Healing by Marvin Gaye… Yeah, okay… Calm down! Before you ask, no, I’m not entirely sure what this means… But, I do know that I’m NOT frustrated! I have self-control and standards, thanks. I want ‘The One’ not EVERYONE.

My questions to my nominees:

What do you look for when reading/following other blogs?

Where do you like to be professionally/personally in 5 years time?

Why did you choose to specialise in the subject that you’re currently blogging about?

In what ways does your blog inspire those who read its posts?

What do you think is your best trait?

Would you consider video-blogging (if you don’t do it already)? If you do, list three things you love most about your vlog.

Mention three of your favourite bloggers/vloggers and explain your reasons why they inspire you.

How would you know if you’ve ‘made it’?

* why is Bae such an absolute SPICE?! 😍 Just, leave me here to swoon like a swan at his EVERYTHING. Legitimitisly.

My nominees:

Everyone who reads this and wants to get involved… I’ll probably mention a few of you in a tweet (to nominate you personally) too.

#WorldGiraffeDay

Hello!

Guess what today is?! Wednesday the 21st of June, the first day of Summer, and the longest one of the year… It’s also the hottest June day that England has experienced in 40-something years! Oh, and the day I found out that there are some great hosts that exist… That’s not all though, it’s #NationalWritingDay and #WorldGiraffeDay no less!

So, I have decided to write a piece on giraffes, and how much I love them. Look, if you’re looking for inspiration – I don’t think you’re going to get much of it reading this post… I mean, the best case scenario is that I end up persuading you that giraffes are the best species of animals to exist. Other than that, you’re better off reading encyclopaedias.

Why do I love giraffes? 

I don’t actually know… One thing I do know is that it’s NOT for the fact that they drink each other’s urine. That, I do know… Apparently, though, the reason they do this is because they’re testing (or tasting) their S/O mating skills. Who knew you could find this out from giraffe wee?!

Imagine my disgust when I was singing their praises to my best friend of almost 20 years (after persuading her to accompany me to the zoo) and we trailed round the whole of ZSL London Zoo to find two licking each other’s bodily fluids. #MORTIFIED!

On a serious, less ‘turn me off food for life’ note, I love giraffes because they’re majestic looking. They’re tall, towering above the rest and literally come across as the most peaceful mammals. According to research, giraffes were thought to be a camel and leopard hybrid in the early days of discovery.

Also, don’t forget their beautiful prints and patterned mosaic-esque bodies. Did you know that each giraffe’s markings are as unique as a human’s finger print? WOW.

Another reason to love them is because I too have a someone high neck, I mean – it’s not like those ladies who used to tie wires around theirs to lengthen them (😱) – just, a normal, humanly high length!

I want to go on a Safari one day, that’d be cool. Just, inside. Staying inside of a car, with windows closed. Some of you may be thinking: ‘if you don’t want to go outside of the car nor open the windows, then why don’t you just watch the video online?’ The simple answer is: “if you don’t want to read what I got to say, why don’t you just ‘x’-it?” Also, there’s the small fact that tigers, lions and cheetahs are going to be around the giraffes when I decide to venture to a Safari (re-enacting the ‘Circle of Life’). So, that said, I value my life and want to see past the safari. Therefore, safety first. Thanks!

More Facts about giraffes:

They’re my favourite animals.

I love them.

They’re the tallest animals.

Their diet consists of leaves and twigs. Therefore, you can’t leave a Willow lying around…

A giraffe in New York had her last trimester (pre-labour) LIVE streamed on Facebook, it dragged on but she eventually gave birth to a calf in April, co-incidentally, her name was APRIL! Would you look at that?!

Don’t mean to go on about it a lot but giraffes drink each others’ urine. (Imagine if this was all that I talked about on this post?! #UrineForATreat FFS!)

^ these above facts were common-sensical ones. I did not use Wikipedia or some kind of website like Giraffe Annonymous [dot] com for my findings.

Jheeze, 500 or so words into this post and you have learned nothing… Reading this post has not grown you in any way, nor has it paid your bills. For that, I apologise.

Then again, at least you know what my favourite animal is. It’ll be cool to know what yours is…  Jot it down below!

#heatwaveUK

We are in the middle of a glorious heatwave! If you know Wiley, you’d also know that he’d be very impressed… However, I wish I could say the same for some of you (who aren’t). Having said that, I can see why, because England doesn’t get much (if any) sunshine. Also, it doesn’t help that the heat we’re accustomed to is sticky, humid and muggy.

So, this post is targeted at those of you who are not fans of this weather and are looking for ways to keep cool. Below, you will find lists of things to do, wear and eat which’ll help to some extent.

Disclaimer: I cannot say that the majority of these tips aren’t common-sense related. Then again, at least I have some…

  1. Invest in a fan or air conditioner and switch it on (that’d be a start, wouldn’t it?)…
  2. Stay hydrated by drinking water or plenty of cold beverages.
  3. Purchase some cooling spray and apply it whenever or wherever you are, I choose MagiCool. Alternatively, a spray toner from LUSH works just as well.
  4. Stay in shady areas when in parks (under the tree is best).
  5. Spend your entire Summer in Waitrose or Iceland as the big branches have AirCon inside. 😉 If that’s not your thing, stick to hanging out inside the freezers of the frozen food aisles… 😆
  6. Go on holiday to the North Pole. (Bit farfetched but then again, YOLO!)
  7. Close your blinds/curtains to avoid the heat of the sun from warming up your room.
  8. Open a window or a door… LOL, top tip, that!
  9. Make Jell-O and freeze them, followed by an ‘eat them’ session.
  10. Consume plenty of ice cream/ice lollies.
  11. Refrigerate everything – your veg, your chocolates, your fruits.
  12. Eat salads, sandwiches or sushi and avoid hot food. You could even try Gazpacho for starters and yogurts and trifles for dessert.

Things to wear in Summer:

  1. Tops and shorts (obvs) or soft cotton tops etc. Wearing loose fitted clothes stops them from sticking to your body when you’re out & about.
  2. Avoid wearing black (even though it is the best colour of clothing) because it attracts the sun.
  3. Sunscreen. Vital. Don’t leave your abode without it… Apply, apply, apply – keeping applying and reapplying.
  4. Sunglasses to protect your eye sockets and balls (slightly graphic and anatomical with my choice of terminology but there you go).
  5. Umbrellas. Believe it or not, umbrellas were used to shelter people from the sun before they were used to shield us from the rain…
  6. BB creams and soft moisturises instead of thick ones and full makeup. It’s inevitable that we will sweat – so nobody wants blocked pores and melting makeup. Stay moisturised or risk skin chapping/chafing and whatnot…

Miscellaneous things:

  1. Shower. I mean, it doesn’t take much does it? Water + your body + some shower gel = hygiene and keeping the people around you happy (and their nasal passages & sense of smell in tact). Lovely.
  2. Don’t complain. I don’t know if you know this but we do not have the luxury of round the clock and all year round sunshine.,, Yes, it’s hot but it won’t last so – don’t complain. Relish in it and embrace it!
  3. Go out to outdoor pools, the beach, BBQs… Honestly, life is too short. Do fun stuff, go out to funfairs, theme parks, town shows, festivals etc.
  4. Take regular breaks at work (when possible) to enjoy the sunshine.
  5. It doesn’t matter how, but just – get some of that Vitamin D. The right amount of it and when done safely (using sun protection), it can prove very beneficial for your mood, your skin, your hair and overall health and wellbeing.

Have I missed anything? I’m sure I have, so get in touch via the solar panelled comments section on my page and we’ll make some photosynthesis worthy communication.

Father's Day

This Sunday is Father’s Day! Whether you’re lucky enough to still have your father in your life or not, this weekend is your chance  to show your appreciation for all the things they’ve done for you over the years.

One thing to keep in mind, fathers aren’t always blood/biological, they can be someone who you look up to who has the characteristics of a father. Respect to those raising another man’s child as their own or supporting someone as though they’re their own. Kudos.

Having said that, it’s a known fact that fathers are very tricky to buy for… So, I’m going to try to help you come up with some cool gift ideas for yours.

Customised products:

Make a gift personal by customising it… Is your dad a fan of beer/coffee? A good idea’d be to order them a customised pint glass or coffee mug. You can plaster a photo of yourself across it, or even engrave some quotes/poems/names into it.

Failing that, is he into fashion? Why not get him a personalised hoodie or some matching father (and son/daughter) t-shirts? Alternatively, a nice pair of socks wouldn’t go amiss – you could customise these too…

Awards:

Is your father (or father figure) the ‘Best Dad in the World’? A trophy is something he may very much appreciate… This’ll also make a great addition to the mantelpiece.

DIY:

Another idea, a very sentimental one at that, would be to glue/put together a collage of family photographs from your birth until now? This is a very creative and touching idea. Alternatively, you could buy a notebook and write/draw all of the most memorable moments you shared together – sort of like a diary of memories.

Generic gift ideas:

A card, a bottle of his favourite wine, a wallet, a gift hamper, a bottle of his favourite cologne..?

Is he not into gifts or sentimental stuff? That’s fine, take him out for a casual drink or a meal? You could also book tickets for him to see his favourite artist/s in concert? If that’s not enough, you could take him to a museum, art gallery etc…

Whether you can afford to splash out or not, it’s the thought that counts. He loves you and’ll appreciate all the effort you went to to make it special.

To those who are celebrating their first Father’s Day or are expecting a new arrival any day now, I salute you! Be the awesome dad you’re capable of being; your children are lucky to have you.