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2018 has been a year for reflection and understanding. I’ve finally been able to get my head out of the clouds or sand (other places available upon request) and into reality. It was like a reckoning or an awakening that I needed.

As much as it hurt, and still does, the lesson that 2018 has taught me is the ability to notice a pipe dream from an achievable goal.

I was known as a forward thinker, future-planner and someone who’s dreams were bigger than their personality. It was just a part of me, I never noticed it until this year… It’s amazing when you step back to evaluate yourself and realise that it was all you’ve known.

My thoughts and perceptions had been a certain way for 26 years, so it was hard for me to accept that it wasn’t a reality nor that it never had been.

When you’re a forward thinker, you have plans, ideas and visions… You strive to make those visions happen. But, if those visions, ideas and/or plans involve other people who aren’t physically in your life at present – don’t (or do, but only for fun – in a story or film).

If your dreams involve other people, that is a ‘pipe dream’. If a dream involves no one else but you, it’s an ‘achievable goal’. Simple.

You can’t force someone or do anything in your power to make them want to share that dream nor want to make it a reality with you.

Therefore, it’s better not to waste your own time on this… Focus on those dreams that involve only you. We are in control of our own destiny where those are concerned.

Yes, your dreams that involve others can work out, but they don’t always pan out the way we’d hoped and there’s always a reason. Patience allows something more suited to you to come along in time…

However, a whopping 89% of those dreams that involve only us can be made into a reality if we not only believe but stay persistent and most importantly: work hard.

Don’t give up. Don’t give in. Do your best.

Dreams that involve just us are achievable because: we are the only ones in control. What we put in, we get out. Whereas, if it’s a ‘pipe dream’ involving others, we can put in 110%, but what we get out of it is not in our control.

Tip: strive for greatness for you and only you. If things are meant to be, they will. But, you’d have spent your time focusing on yourself and changing your reality during the time when you were the only one in it at the time.

Then, when it’s your time to build a future with someone, it will no longer be a pipe dream, but an achievable goal.

To conclude, only build a future or dream with someone when they’re there, beside, in front or around you. Until then, do but not to the extent that you’re attaching hopes or visions – because one day, you’ll look back and realise you were wishing on planes the whole time (not stars).

2018 has been one of the hardest years for me, personally. Just when I thought I’d done all the growing I needed to do previously, something comes out of the woodwork which I need to deal with and learn from. That’s life…

I found 2018 particularly difficult because it was the year of bubble bursting, awakening and reality checking. I had spent years of my life planning or hoping for stuff that weren’t even a reality and looking back, never would be. It’s hard when you’ve put your all into something only to step back and see you’ve achieved nothing this whole time.

So, I guess the message is: it’s great to dream big and have high hopes, but also don’t expect anything from them. Discern between a pipe dream and an achievable goal. That way, you won’t be disappointed.


Good morning! I have finally succumbed to loving this weather and I’m now embracing every minute of it! Isn’t it beautiful!?!?

“Never in a month of Sundays”? Umm, it has been sunny for more than a month… So: ‘RIGHT NOW IS a month of SUN DAYS (and then some!)’

Okay, this post has nothing to do with the weather, it’s predominantly on my new Brazilian Blowout… But, also, the weather! Thanks.

It’s apparently going to be record-breaking in Europe. Please enjoy it before #Brexit goes into full effect.

Brazilian blow-dries are a lot like this weather – they’re HOT! *laughs in Brazilian and books flights to do it in Rio*

Procedure: washing hair with cuticle opening shampoo (twice). Then, adding the natural solution/treatment. You then wait 10 minutes for it to soak in and blow-dry it in, then straighten it. After that, you rinse only with water and condition, then blow-dry it again. It’s a three hour process.

So, three hours well spent if I’m going to spend the next four months STILL not brushing my hair.

Anyway, long story longer, I had it done because my mum could not bear me leaving the house without brushing my hair…

Usually, parents have to do that whole Birds & the Bees talk, right?

My mum had nothing to worry about because I’m abstaining and that life chose me until marriage.

But, other lives that chose me were the “not-brush my hair” and “look homeless” ones. I actually sat my mum down at the tender age of 15 to tell her it ain’t happening.

I remember the speech, and she wishes she didn’t… It was and I quote: “mum, some people want to be astronauts, I just don’t want to brush my hair.”

She understood, reluctantly, and then continued to try as she might-ed to keep me strategically placed next to combs and hair brushes. She thought the days when I’d straighten my hair were a revelation, because they were so few and far between.

Brazilian blowdries, for me, just mean I can continue not brushing my hair. I can go four months without brushing AND hearing “can you brush you hair?”, “Do you want a brush?” and “Let me brush your hair!!!”

Why do I not brush my hair? There were 24 hours in a day last time I checked… There are 7 days in a week and four weeks in a month and 12 months in a year. Not one second/minute/hour/month/week/year/leap year/decade/millennium or anything time-related was made for me to pick up a comb and utter the words: “let me use you!” Who do you think I am, the Kings of Leon of hair brushers?

I LOVE Brazilian blow-dries. My USP is to I cut corners where hair brushing is concerned, and this gives me that…

It’s a treatment that straightens, nourishes, and softens the hair, giving it added shine. As I explained briefly, it lasts 4 months (if you only wash it once a week).

Yes, it is dependent on how many times you wash it. This is great because I don’t have to spend my showers washing my hair too! Extra time for me to do NOTHING! Lo’ AND BEHOLD! What a LIFE!

Thanks Jurema for doing my hair and making me look HOME-FULL! I actually look like I live inside of an abode now! My life has changed stratospherically.

My mum and my follicles are eternally grateful. I’m just grateful that I don’t have to hear conversations related to brushing of the hair.

Rating: 5*

Sophie Kinsella is my spirit author. I just love her quick wit and chick-flick the pagers. Her writing inspires me no end (pun intended). But, Jenny Colgan is a close third…

The Endless Beach is a book that I purchased a while back but have had literally no time to read. As you know, I’ve taken some time off for some R&R before a manic few months, so I’m also taking time to get back into the real world. I’ve started reading again.

This weather makes me want to read. So, I venture out into my garden, sit in my lounger and enjoy the rays with an iced coconut water in hand (and down the tonsils). I feel like I’m actually on holiday, it’s great!

Anyway, back to the book… The Endless Beach by Jenny Colgan (not related to the inventor of Colgate toothpastes nor Hulk Hogan, as far as I know) tells the story of Flora and her friend Lorna who try to make their relationships work, in different circumstances. They do so on a beach – working in a kitchen… I mean, if you’re going to do some damage control/prevention, there’s worse places than doing it on a shore.

So, if you’re into funny chick-flicks and are looking for a new good read, give The Endless Beach a go. It’s 402 pages long, so the beach ain’t the only thing that’s Endless. All jokes aside, it’s brilliant. I couldn’t put it down.

Gorgeously romantic, gloriously heartwarming – take the unmissable new novel from Sunday Times bestseller Jenny Colgan to the beach this summer

Run away to a beautiful Scottish beach and let the unmissable new novel from Sunday Times bestseller Jenny Colgan heat up your summer!

Dreams start here…

‘Charming, made me long to escape to Mure. Total joy.’ – Sophie Kinsella

On the quayside next to the Endless Beach sits the Summer Seaside Kitchen. It’s a haven for tourists and locals alike, who all come to eat the freshest local produce on the island and catch up with the gossip. Flora, who runs the cafe, feels safe and content – unless she thinks too hard about her relationship with Joel, her gorgeous but emotionally (and physically) distant boyfriend.

While Flora is in turmoil about her relationship. her best friend Lorna is pining after the local doctor. Saif came to the island as a refugee, having lost all of his family. But he’s about to get some shocking news which will change everything for him.

As cold winter nights shift to long summer days, can Flora find her happy-ever-after with Joel?

My rating: 5*

A very, very good read. There’s also a loyalty card on one of the pages further back, hand-drawn and written by a little one. That, together with the plot, writing and fact that Jenny Colgan who’s tipped to be the next Sophie Kinsellla makes this a must-read!

You can download it on Kindle or get it in paperback at most bookstores now.

Located in the south coast between the rainforest and soft sands, Carlisle Bay is one of the world’s leading luxury resorts, appealing to families and couples alike.

This hotel is a must-stay for high-net-worth individuals who wish to spend time off their yacht, in a newly refurbished resort offering a contemporary and understated style that doesn’t distract from the island’s natural beauty.

Carlisle Bay Resort, which opened its doors in 2003, promises sophisticated, stylish interiors and access to a relaxing spa. The fact that it’s situated in a corner of the island means it offers plenty of privacy, allowing regular yacht use, but also within a short distance of the English Harbour.

Tell me more!

The picturesque views, friendly staff, upbeat guests and genuine hospitality is enough to distinguish Antigua from other Caribbean islands. This all-suite resort has it all from crystal clear turquoise waters, emerald green hills to plentiful swaying palms… 

Guests are promised a taste of the premium Antiguan lifestyle, with romantically dimmed lights spanning the gardens outside and an array of orchids along and custom-made furnishings/interiors inside.

What can I expect?

If you’re looking for endless fun in an outdoor pool, a brisk walk in tranquil gardens or to laze around in a comfy hammock – Carlisle Bay is the place to be! Also, if the beauty of Earth phenomena is your thing, why not watch the sunrise or sunset during a yoga session on the Jetty?

Cinema fans can also attend selected film screenings at the luxurious Screening Room. Bookworms, Carlisle Bay has its own quirky library packed with only the best and top travel reads for you.

Your little ones can use up all their energy in the ‘Cool Kids Club’ offers a paddling pool, sand pit and jungle gym. The resort also runs a handful of fun activities such as lizard hunting and crab racing. The message here is: there’s something for everyone.

The Blue Spa, like the rest of this hotel, is fabulously stripped back and screams luxury and glamour. It’s small but mighty. Guests are offered facials from super brand NaturaBisse (used by Kate Moss and Gwyneth Paltrow) and body wraps, scrubs and massages. Unusually, there are treatments for teenagers too, plus a yoga pavilion, wet room and sauna… What’s not to love?

At Carlisle Bay, only the healthiest and finest dishes will do – guests are promised a different flavoured healthy smoothie each morning at breakfast and can expect healthy but tasty meals suitable for all diets throughout the day. Some crowd favourites are: sampling the fresh seafood at Indigo on the Beach, tucking into authentic Italian cuisine poolside at Ottimo! or enjoying Catch of the Day fish at The Jetty Grill on the beach front. Do you want a taste of the Far East without leaving the Caribbean? Well, in that case, be sure to visit East, one of the island’s most renowned restaurants and enjoy live music at the Pavilion Bar. 

Full list of amenities:

  • Bar
  • Beach
  • Gym
  • Kids’ club
  • Laundry room
  • Parking
  • Pool
  • Restaurant
  • Room service
  • Sauna
  • Spa
  • Tennis court
  • Wi-Fi

Famous last words…

Carlaisle Bay is family and wheelchair friendly resort, this means that all generations and people of all disabilities can enjoy their stay.

 Finally, no, Carlisle Bay doesn’t come cheap. Then again, this second-to-none luxurious experience is not to be missed and one that is well worth the splurge! 

Carlisle Bay Resort, Antigua